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Become a Possibilitarian 

Tame negative self-talk, create confidence, and face setbacks with self-care.

Key points

  • Self-confidence, a postive mindset, and resilience are key to personal empowerment.
  • Record yourself reading a celebratory letter from your future self to harness the power of positivity.
  • A healthy routine is the foundation to unleashing your internal power.
  • A "possibilitarian" finds a way to face obstacles in their path.
Photo: Michelle Tennant Nicholson
Michelle Tennant hangs her "become a possibilitarian" plaque by her front door to remind her to face obstacles with a positive mindset.
Source: Photo: Michelle Tennant Nicholson

In the hustle and bustle of today's fast-paced world, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by the challenges and obstacles that life throws our way. The key to overcoming those hurdles and reaching our full potential lies within us.

True empowerment is not just a buzzword; it's a concept that, when embraced, can transform our lives. I've interviewed 50 people about what brings them power and insight that moves them into action. That work led me to Stacey Chillemi, an author who faces epilepsy with resilience. Our conversation focused on prioritizing self-care and turning lessons learned into opportunities. Below are highlights from that conversation.

Seeing Setbacks as Opportunity

Empowerment is not just a word; it's a force that propels us forward, giving us the courage to face challenges head-on. It involves tapping into our unique talents and strengths while fostering resilience in the face of adversity. By reframing setbacks as opportunities for growth, you can break free from self-doubt. Let's explore how to do that.

Understanding Obstacles

To overcome obstacles, you might seek to first acknowledge and understand them fully. External challenges, such as financial constraints, societal expectations, and personal circumstances, can weigh you down. Simultaneously, internal obstacles like fear, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs can sabotage your progress. By developing resilience, you can rise above the challenges and navigate life's uncertainties.

I've found acknowledging and confronting the obstacles that hinder progress is always the first step. So, what is in your way? Write that down.

Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence acts as a driving force when your motivation may be lacking, and the key to unlocking confidence is acknowledgement. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, to fuel your belief in your abilities. Focus on your strengths, surround yourself with positivity, and practice self-care. Embrace new challenges.

Here's a glimpse into what I do. When having coffee or lunch with a close friend, ask, "What do you want to celebrate today?" Or, instead of complaining about an ex-lover or overbearing boss, ask instead, "What do you want to be acknowledged for accomplishing today?" You might find your friend lights up with a smile as you both speak about acknowledgment and celebrations. As a result, you'll both be radiating confidence.

How to Tame Negative Self-Talk

A positive mindset is the foundation of empowerment. It takes practice to tame your mind of negative self-talk. I train with podcasts, personal recordings, and audiobooks. For example, visualize your success and practice gratitude by recording your voice reading a celebratory letter you've written to yourself from the future. In my letters, I communicate to myself that I've already accomplished my goals for the quarter or year. Play the recording frequently to help your brain visualize success. To rise above obstacles with optimism, view them as stepping stones toward success.

A gift I was given years ago by one of my PR writers still hangs in my house today. It says, "Become a possibiltarian." It hangs by my front door and I see it every time I leave the house. So when I face obstacles, I remember the artwork and brainstorm possibilities to succeed.

Self-Care Routine Tips:

When Stacey Chillemi and I chatted, we both emphasized the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle to face obstacles, build confidence, and keep possibility front and center. Here's a summary of tips from Stacey's health-coaching business and what I find myself repeating to students when I teach group fitness classes:

Eat Well: Fuel Your Body, Nourish Your Mind

Aim for a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins. Minimize processed foods and added sugars while staying hydrated. Prioritize nutrient-dense foods that provide energy and support your brain health. Remember, the food you consume has a direct impact on your physical and mental well-being.

Exercise Regularly: Energize Your Body, Stimulate Your Mind

Engage in physical activities that you enjoy, such as walking, jogging, yoga, or dancing. Regular exercise not only keeps your body fit but also boosts your mood and mental well-being. Find an exercise routine that suits your lifestyle and commit to it. Exercise is a powerful tool for enhancing your overall empowerment, both physically and mentally.

Prioritize Sleep: Recharge Your Mind, Enhance Your Resilience

Quality sleep is vital for optimal functioning. Create a relaxing bedtime routine and aim for seven to eight hours of uninterrupted sleep each night. (I like 9!) Make your bedroom a sleep-friendly environment, free of distractions, and develop healthy sleep habits to ensure you wake up rejuvenated and ready to tackle the day. Adequate sleep is essential for maintaining resilience and coping with life's challenges.

Embrace Meditation: Center Your Mind, Find Inner Peace

Meditation is a powerful tool for self-reflection and for finding inner peace. Set aside time each day for mindfulness practices, such as deep-breathing exercises, guided meditation, or yoga. These practices help calm the mind, reduce stress, and cultivate self-awareness. Embracing meditation is a transformative step in your journey to personal empowerment.

Discover Your True Potential: Set Goals and Take Action

Create clear goals that align with your vision. Set realistic, attainable targets that energize you. Focus on personal growth by seeking new knowledge, learning from others, and embracing challenges as opportunities for self-improvement. Take consistent action toward your goals, learn from setbacks, and celebrate progress along the way. The journey to personal empowerment involves continuous self-discovery and intentional steps toward your desired future.

The path to personal empowerment lies within you. Cultivate confidence, nurture your positive mindset, and embrace setbacks as opportunities. Through healthy lifestyle practices, you can amplify your overall well-being and pave the way for a fulfilling, satisfying life. You might find becoming a possibilitarian becomes your secret to success, too.

If interested, you can watch my chat with Stacey Chillemi, too.

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