May I Have Your Attention

The ADHD-impacted marriage

Melissa Orlov

Does Stimulant Use Lead to Addictions?

Stimulant medications are controlled substances. Should adults with ADHD be worried? Here's what the research suggests about rates of addiction and stimulant medications.

The Problem with Valentine's Day

Why don't we admit that the hype around Valentine's Day sets many couples up to 'fail?'

The Worst Kind of Parenting

This could be one of the most common mistakes that partners make: taking on too much of their partner's responsibilities. It seems helpful but instead hurts you both.

Is an "ADHD-Blind" Relationship Desirable?

W. Kamau Bell got me thinking about race and creating a color-blind society. Turns out there are at least a few surprising parallels between race and how we think about ADHD.

3 Common Habits That Are Ruining Your Relationship

Marriage research suggests that marital satisfaction declines over time. These habits contribute greatly to that pattern, but are easy to move away from.

The Dark Side of Optimism

We're used to thinking about optimism as something that is a positive force in one's life. But what if it's not?

Six Tips for Better Communication

"Good communication" is the holy grail of relationships, yet many struggling couples seek it in vain. It doesn't have to be that way.

What About Women with ADD?

A recent review of the research on ADHD in women can help women, and the partners who love them, live better with ADHD.

9 Ways to Make (Almost) Any Task Fun

Overwhelmed with things to do? Use these strategies to make checking things off your list something to look forward to.

Are You Criticizing Your Way Towards a Break Up?

Frustration over how and when tasks are done can hurt relationships in unintended ways. These tips from working with ADHD-impacted couples can help.

Why You Should Never Tell Someone "I Need You To..."

"I need you to..." is sometimes a politically correct way to boss a partner around. As such, it hurts your relationship. The key is to be careful.

The 'A' Word

There’s a reason many adults hate the label ‘ADHD’. It’s cruelly synonymous with ‘incompetent,’ ‘lazy’ and ‘fail!’ to too many people who use it. This stereotyping hurts us all.

How to Optimize Your ADHD Treatment

A practical approach to getting your ADHD treatment to really work.

Can Adults With ADHD Really Change?

"I am who I am" and "I can't change" are more about fear than reality, and don't reflect the science around ADHD.

Can We Please Have Sex? 5 Steps to Restart Intimacy

When one partner stops your sex life it's a cry for help that adds significant tension to a marriage. Resolving the issues so you can make love again takes a sensitive approach.

Optimism and the ADHD Partner

Some partners think those with ADHD aren't taking their personal or joint marital woes seriously enough. But there may be other things going on.

If Only I Had Known About ADHD Before!

Moving beyond regret means moving yourself into a different future. Happily, for adults with ADHD and their partners, there is now good information that can help them do so.

9 Rules for Recovering from Relationship Mistakes

These 9 ideas are critical to returning to a healthy relationship with your partner.

Are 'ADHD' and 'Mistakes' Synonymous?

The symptoms of ADHD lead to many mistakes for those who have it. But the problem isn't the mistakes, it's how one views them.

Adult ADHD Impacts Kids, Too

Teens are old enough to have open conversations about what ADHD is (and is not) and how the symptoms show up in other family members.

To Be More Intimate with Your Partner, Know Yourself First

Too many couples focus on sex and affection, ignoring other important skills that will ultimately best protect their ability to stay intimate over the long-term. What are those skills?

Emotionality - A 'Core Characteristic' of ADHD?

Use these specific strategies to manage the emotional responses that come with ADHD.

Tired of Being 'Stuck' in Your Relationship?

There is an art to creating and embracing change so you can reinvigorate your relationship.

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4 Great Ways to Use a Snow Day...Sort Of

How do you respond to adversity? Reflecting upon your answer can lead to improvements in your life and in your relationship.

Taking the Risk to Love Over the Long-Term

What do you do with the information that your partner is capable of betrayal? Or that he or she has trouble holding a job? Love over the long haul takes open eyes and a certain amount of fearlessness.

When Do You Tell a Potential Love Interest About ADHD?

Adult ADHD may be the world's worst kept secret...but some times to talk about it with a potential mate are better than others.

What Role, Obligation?

An obligation to stay together can lead couples to accept - and reinforce - a negative or dysfunctional relationship. Instead of "waiting it out," seek help.

Overcoming Relationship Inertia

Here's a conundrum with getting an ADHD evaluation: Often the partner who suspects he or she has ADHD has the classic symptoms -- including procrastination. This inhibits his ability to follow through and set the appointment needed to get treatment for...procrastination! Meanwhile, the other partner waits and waits while the relationship continues to struggle...

He Never Plans a Date!

Should women take over all responsibility for planning dates when a partner's ADHD gets in the way?

The Tension Hidden in ADHD-Impacted Relationships

The symptoms of ADHD result in behaviors that may strike at the heart of healthy relationships. Couples who understand the tension between symptoms and expectations will be more equipped to unravel the problems between them.

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