Married and Still Doing It

Wanting the one you're with

Laurie J Watson LMFT, LPC

After Menopause: How Sex Is Different

As most menopausal women could probably tell you, “the change” is about much more than just what is going on physically.

7 Snafus During Sex: What to Do When Things Go Wrong

Let’s face it: Two bodies can make a lot of sounds and smells that are anything but sexy. Here are some embarrassing difficulties you might encounter – and how to handle them.

The Real Secret to Keeping Sex Hot

In the early years of a relationship, sex is hot, hot, hot! But can married couples keep sexual passion alive over the long haul? Long-term desire is rooted in something deeper.

When Partners Disagree About Taboos

Though it’s still taboo for many, there’s been a cultural shift when it comes to heterosexual anal sex. Do women enjoy it? What if he wants it and she doesn't?

6 Ways to Increase Her Orgasmic Power

Has the mountain turned into a molehill? There is nothing more frustrating for a woman than to have the physiological motivation toward sex diminish or disappear. Here's help....

Four Rules for a Productive Sex Talk with your Partner

How many times have you thought if you could just communicate about sex, it would get better, but instead talking seems to make it worse?

Looking for the G-Spot? 6 Things to Know

Is the G-spot real? Does every woman have it? How do I know if I'm touching the right spot?

6 Facts and Myths About Masturbation

While it may feel shameful to admit, everybody does it at some point in their lives.

This Is What Women Really Think About Sex

Sex begins in her mind. For her, it’s the fantasizing, remembering, and imagining hot sex that revs her engine. Sex researcher Meredith Chivers says “being desired is the orgasm.”

This Is How Men Really Think About Sex

Sex begins in the body. While women’s desire for sex may be prompted by their mind, memory, or emotional feelings of connection, for men, desire is physical.

Does She Want Emotional Connection Before She Wants Sex?

A man complained that his wife didn’t want to have sex unless she felt emotionally connected to him. He had no idea what she was talking about.

5 Resolutions for an Erotic Marriage

The number one resolution for New Years is to “get fit.” The body life in our marriage is our sex life. Not just sex but sex imbued with meaning, desire and romance.

Are Your Partner's Rules Ruining Your Sex Life?

Sexual boundaries protect our special commitment. Sex rules, on the other hand, are often unspoken and usually limit sex.

6 Myths About Pleasing a Woman in Bed

It’s difficult to please a woman if she doesn't reveal her pleasure secrets. Myths about what she turns her on and what turns her off create untold anxiety. Here's the truth:

5 Tricks for Hotter Summer Sex

Five research-based ideas for heating up your sex life this summer.

12 Strategies to Sexually Survive Breast Cancer

Beating cancer means being and feeling alive and having hope. Beating breast cancer means that and feeling like a fully-alive female and sexual being.

Five Strategies to Prevent a Sex Addiction Crisis at Work

Disaster! 6:13 p.m., manager Trisha Woodard stops into her vice president’s office for discussion, interrupting him looking at his iPhone and, well.... Save your company now!

The Khan Academy of the Cl*toris

Is your New Year's resolution - be better in bed? Do you wonder: How do I make her want to have sex more often? What makes a woman have an orgasm? How do I tell him what I like?

Seven Dos and Don'ts for the Perfect New Year's Eve Kiss

Kissing is the most difficult sex act. Make the ritualized New Year's Eve kiss a symbol of your commitment. Here's seven dos and don'ts to make it perfect:

How You Can Stop the Next Terrorist

Like most of the world, I felt fearful, angry and initially, powerless, as the news of the terrorism in Paris emerged. I asked myself, what can I do to stop terrorism? What can one person do to stop the madness? The answer came - plenty.

Garner, Affleck, Marital Therapy, and Divorce

The tabloids exploded with curiosity and innuendo of terrible trouble once Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner were discovered going to a marital therapist. Now with a pending divorce, people’s worst fears are confirmed. Apparently if your spouse suggests therapy, it is a last ditch effort or a way to tell you it’s over. So teaches Hollywood. But is it?

Games to Cure Common Sex Problems

Too fast or too slow. Premature ejaculation for men and anorgasmia (no orgasm) for women are the two most common sexual problems. Solve them with psychological sex games.

Resolution for a Better Sex Life in 1 Weekend, 3 Commitments

How many times have you wished for a better sex life? Resolve with these concrete suggestions to make in happen in the new year! Prioritize your intimate life, fine-tune what works and expand your sexual repertoire. Here’s your step-by-step instructions to recommit to and re”vamp” the bedroom!

Sexlessness - the Anti-Magi Gift

He sold his pocket watch to buy her combs for her hair; she sold her hair to buy a chain for his pocket watch. The lovers discerned their partner’s secret desire and gave up their own most precious possession to secure the other’s happiness. Sexlessness is the opposite dynamic; each spouse figures out what the other most needs and withholds it.

How to Solve the ONLY Sex Fight

It may seem like we fight over different sexual issues–frequency, quality, involvement, variety, morning or evening time–but it all boils down to one central struggle.

7 Reasons She's Not in Orgasmic Heaven

Orgasm is the sexual carrot. It’s the big bang in our tiny universe. Feeling desire is exquisite but pining without satisfaction for the long run is frustrating. Without it, a woman will stop becoming easily aroused. Her desire will extinguish. No big bang means sex is no big deal. Here are 7 reasons she doesn't come:

The 4 Hidden Reasons Some Men Don't Want Sex

Beautiful, fit, desirable, and desiring women make sex therapy appointments to complain about husbands who don't want sex. Why? Here are four reasons and resolutions.

Fantasies—Dirty or Spicy?

Patients often tell me their wild sexual fantasies... sometimes before they become wild sexual escapades. Thinking about illicit, taboo acts can be super-erotic. It's almost the juxtaposition of the erotic against it's shadow, the good against the bad, that makes it come alive and feel enlivening to us.

Love, Hate, and Bat-sh*t Crazy in Marriage

I love and hate my husband. Shocked? There are things about him which I can't tolerate and end up having to just ignore. And I don't mean just that he doesn't pick up his socks (which he doesn't.) I know he feels the same way. For many years, he's called those parts he hates - the alien. One morning he woke, he says, looked across the bed and saw her - the alien.

5 How-To Tips for Changing Your Sex Life

But how does the daddy sperm meet the mommy egg, Mommy?" asked my sweet 4 year-old. My clients ask, "But HOW do I change my sex life?" People feel so frustrated when their requests fail to spur their partner to action. They've nagged, asked, been nice, been mad, demanded, yelled, cried, and gone silent.

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