A Marriage of Equals

How to achieve balance in a committed relationship

Catherine Aponte Psy.D.

What Happens When You Blame Your Partner and How to Stop

Finding fault with your partner creates a bridge too far.

Tension in Your Relationship Is Good

On being a partner and an individual at the same time.

Sex Is Not Just Sex—It's Baby-Making

Good sex is partnered sex.

Do Not Validate Unexamined Emotions

There is no unique "fingerprint" for each emotion.

Where Are the Virtuous Men?

The Industrial Revolution gave us "masculine" men and "virtuous" women.

The Ongoing Struggle to Create a Marriage of Equals

Why it's hard to change gender-based ideas in marriages between men and women.

Women in Pursuit of Good Sex

Good sex is partnered sex.

Your Marriage Vows Do Not Entitle You to Anything

Your marriage vows provide for your spouse—not you.

How You Relate in Dating Is Not the Same As How You Relate in Marriage

Marriage is about creating a collaborative relationship process.

For Your Marriage to Work, Commit to Your Relationship

Marriage is about committing to the relationship process. How you interact with each other keeps love alive for the long haul.

How to Flourish in Marriage While Being Your Own Person

You are an individual and a spouse.

How to Correct and Inform Your Husband

How to talk about difficult issues with your spouse as equals.

When Love Dies

It's easier to fall in love than to stay in love. Here's how to stop marital disappointment, dissolution, and disaffection in their tracks.

Are You Entitled to What You Want from Your Partner?

Relationship "needs" are sometimes just demands that must be fulfilled.

How You Interact Is Unique to Your Relationship

How you interact affects your relationship quality and stability.

Anatomy of a Marital Conflict

Do you know the difference between a conflict and a disagreement? Here's how to address both types of marital interactions.   

How to Negotiate a Variety of Sexual Options

Expressing what you want.

What Are You Really Saying When You Call Me That?

What to say when someone calls you a bitch.

How to Create a Transformational Relationship

Relationships organized by contract tend not to be happy ones.

Do Self-Help Books About Relationships Really Help?

When it comes to self-help, don't believe everything you read.

When Your Mentally Ill Spouse Does Not Want to Get Better

How to help a spouse learn self-management, without sacrificing yourself.

How to Have Good Sex, and Be a Good Man

Testosterone is not a metaphor for masculinity.

Women: Don't Take on the "Low Sex Drive" Rap

And two more raps not to take on.

How Partners Negotiate Sex in a Relationship

You want to have sex. What's next?

How to Deal With Personal Insecurities in Your Marriage

"How can you ignore me like that? I work so hard at being nice to you!"

How to Avoid a Coronavirus Divorce

The pandemic may force you to choose.

How to Talk to a Resistant Husband

Learn to recognize his interpersonal tactics.

Masculinity: Is There Really a Crisis?

"Masculinity" and "femininity" are out the window.

Husbands: How to Avoid Being Divorced by Your Wife

Most divorces in the U.S. are initiated by women.

Infidelity: Figuring It Out

How to deal with an affair.

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