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Lessons to Help You Get the Love You Want
Alexandra H. Solomon Ph.D.
Does your partner feel emotionally unavailable to you? This is why some people struggle to open up and how to foster the meaningful conversations you crave.
You’ve gotten your vaccine, but perhaps you’re not quite ready to emerge. A relationship expert discusses Pandemic Emergence Social Anxiety, and how to cope with it.
Reading someone's diary without their consent is a violation of privacy. A relationship therapist explores what can drive us to want to snoop and what we can do instead.
Those of us who are single during the pandemic face a unique set of challenges. Here are ten major themes single people report experiencing, and tools for cultivating resilience.
A family therapist shares seven suggestions for parents as they help their children and teens cope with the ongoing threats of white supremacist violence in the U.S.
Three strategies to help you cope with the end of an intimate relationship in a way that promotes healing, learning, and growth.
Couples often struggle to figure out when, whether, and how porn fits into their relationship. A couples therapist offers perspective and guidance on this tender topic.
Research shows that people who have cheated in the past have a higher risk of cheating again. If your partner has a history of infidelity, here's how to assess your level of risk.
Using the word "lazy" to describe our partners or ourselves creates more problems than it solves. Here's how to honor your frustration and get what you need.
Dealing with relational ambivalence is painful. A relationship expert surveys her social media audience about their experiences and shares the collective wisdom of their responses.
It's more important than ever to maintain a digital boundary that reduces conflict and maximizes connection.
The transition from dating to cohabitation is notoriously stressful. These three research-tested skills will help you stay connected.
Even if you and your partner plan to vote the same way in 2020, differences in how you each reckon with how to be an anti-racist ally can be cause for conflict right now.
If sheltering in place is triggering conflict about pornography in your relationship, try these four strategies to increase understanding and intimacy.
Is someone you love refusing to take the coronavirus as seriously as you are? Here are strategies for dealing with the fear, frustration, and relationship fallout.
Faced with a pandemic, routines are disrupted and uncertainty reigns. Here are some emotional first aid strategies couples can use to cope with this new reality.
Do you understand the "why" that guides your sexual activity?
A couples therapist explain the importance of sexual self-awareness and offers three questions to help you learn about the beliefs and expectations you bring into the bedroom.
Many of us grew up with fear-loaded messages about sex, but messages that pressure us to be care-free in bed generate shame too.
You have a "money story" and so does your partner. The holidays can highlight differences between you. A couples therapist explains how to practice financial self-awareness.
Ghosting is great for Halloween but terrible for the dating world. Learn how to date with courage and self-awareness.
Teasing can bring couples closer by creating a shared world of play and laughter, but it also can sever connection. A couples therapist explains how to handle it when humor hurts.
To create a healthy intimate relationship, you need to understand the beliefs that you bring into love. Is your definition of soulmates setting you up for disappointment?
Between the #metoo movement and the Kavanaugh hearing, many women are experiencing deep rage. A couples therapist offers thoughts on how male partners can be powerful allies.
Over 50% of campus sexual assaults occur between August and November, and parents need to talk with their college students. A professor and family therapist offers some guidelines.
We don't fall in love for the fights, but conflict is the side effect of building a life together.
Unsure how to talk with your kids about dating, sex, and porn? Parental silence speaks volumes, so read these tips, take a deep breath, and start talking.
The news cycle is full of stories about abuses of power, yet we overlook the subtle and meaningful ways that power dynamics are an integral aspect of our intimate relationships.
Most couples experience problems with sexual desire at least some of the time. Here's why the holiday season can exacerbate libido troubles—and what helps.
Feeling nervous about an upcoming family gathering? The seven C's of Thanksgiving can help you prepare you, body, mind, and spirit for any family dynamics that come your way.
Alexandra Solomon, Ph.D., is an assistant clinical professor in Northwestern University’s Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy program.