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He Loves Me...He Loves Me Not

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on May 7, 2013

In the 23rd installment of Sage’s Relationship Matters podcast, hosted by Dr. Bjarne Holmes of Champlain College, Dr. Jennifer Tomlinson (Carnegie Mellon University) discusses her recent research with Professor Art Aron (Stony Brook University) on the classic dilemma: How do we balance the benefits of growing emotionally close to a person with the risk of getting hurt?

In the 23rd installment of Sage’s Relationship Matters podcast, hosted by Dr. Bjarne Holmes of Champlain College, Dr. Jennifer Tomlinson (Carnegie Mellon University) discusses her recent research with Professor Art Aron (Stony Brook University) on the classic dilemma: How do we balance the benefits of growing emotionally close to a person with the risk of getting hurt?

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Do Sacrifices in Relationships Give Happiness? It Depends

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on April 30, 2013

In the 22nd installment of Sage’s Relationship Matters podcast, hosted by Dr. Bjarne Holmes of Champlain College, Dr. Casey Totenhagen (University of Arizona) dicusses recent research on how the small daily sacrifices we make (e.g., doing the dishes, picking up a partner from work) influence how happy and committed we are in our relationships.

In the 22nd installment of Sage’s Relationship Matters podcast, hosted by Dr. Bjarne Holmes of Champlain College, Dr. Casey Totenhagen (University of Arizona) dicusses recent research on how the small daily sacrifices we make (e.g., doing the dishes, picking up a partner from work) influence how happy and committed we are in our relationships.

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The Benefits of a Communal Orientation

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on April 16, 2013

“Being inclined to care and help others can paradoxically be rewarding for the self, even when we’re not looking for explicit benefits", says Bonnie Le regarding findings from her most recent research study. "When we’re caring for others, we actually feel better about ourselves, we have more self-worth, and we also feel more satisfaction and love in our relationships."

“Being inclined to care and help others can paradoxically be rewarding for the self, even when we’re not looking for explicit benefits", says Bonnie Le regarding findings from her most recent research study. "When we’re caring for others, we actually feel better about ourselves, we have more self-worth, and we also feel more satisfaction and love in our relationships."

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Embarrassing Moments In Relationships

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on March 1, 2012

Have you ever been at a party and had your partner make a joke so embarrassing, either so mean-spiritedness or so self-defeating, that you just wanted to melt away?

Have you ever been at a party and had your partner make a joke so embarrassing, either so mean-spiritedness or so self-defeating, that you just wanted to melt away?

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Can You Really Change Your Relationship?

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on June 20, 2011

I recently interviewed Dr. Nickola Overall about her latest research on the dos and don'ts in trying to change your relationship or partner.

I recently interviewed Dr. Nickola Overall about her latest research on the dos and don'ts in trying to change your relationship or partner.

Sex
When Are Women Into Casual Sex?

Bjarne Holmes Ph.D. on June 14, 2011

Men are more interested and likely to engage in casual sex than women, right? Not so fast...New research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that when great pleasure is expected, women are just as likely as men to say "YES" to casual sex.

Men are more interested and likely to engage in casual sex than women, right? Not so fast...New research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology shows that when great pleasure is expected, women are just as likely as men to say "YES" to casual sex.

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