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Desire: Who's in Charge?

Knowing the WHO that chooses

the call to blossom is true desire

What do you want?

What do you want to have?

What do you want to do?

What do you want to be?

What do you want to experience?

What do you want more than anything?

What do you want right now?

What do you really want?

What do you desire?

What do you desire to have?

What do you desire to do?

What do you desire to be?

What do you desire to experience?

What do you desire more than anything?

What do you desire right now?

What does your heart want?

What does your body want?

What does your soul want?

So who is the “YOU” that gets to answer the question? And who is the “YOU” that makes decision or follows through or the partial, limited you that holds back or pretends to forget or stays in the comfort zone? This is the real work of life, coming to know who we are most deeply so that our desires spring from the truth within and when we act on desire, we act from Self. We often want or desire many, many things. It is called the “wanting mind” in Buddhism. Advertising relies on it. Capitalism is built on it. So is greed. So ifs fear. But it is not who we are and true desire is no more (and no less) than the blossoming of a rose, which is called towards its own unfolding as inevitably as night is called to follow day.

It is worth a mention that it is not only our desires that help us soar or cause us to fall, but so can our thinking, feelings, imagination, and sensations. Each of these psychological functions gives us access to the outer world and the inner world and we can work through them, using them as our vehicles of connection, like our psychological skin. But we can also lose ourselves in any one of them. Too much thinking, an imagination out of control, bodily sensations that pull us towards one thing or another, emotions that get the better of us, all can send us spinning.

So we have desires and we are more than those desires. We can choose to act on them or not. This is free will. Freed even from our own inner chains. We have thoughts and we are more than those thoughts. We have feelings and we are not those feelings. On and on.

In the end we are a center of pure consciousness and will, freed of our story-line, and old script messages and ready to choose. I hear the call of my desire and I hold it tenderly. Knowing myself in my deepest self, I choose to act on that desire… or not. Because only I will know what is truly best for me.