Improve How You Feel by Changing Your Attention
Selective attention determines your experience and you can control it.
Posted Dec 06, 2014
William James, as far back as the 1890’s, wrote extensively about the relationship between selective attention and experience, profoundly observing “my experience is what I agree to attend to.” Modern day cognitive psychologists have demonstrated through research that we are active participants in our process of perception, confirming that what we think and feel is determined by what we pay attention to. Not only do we have the ability to shift our attention away from painful things and give our attention to more pleasant thoughts or memories, as we do this it inhibits our ability to think about the unpleasant painful things. This happens because attention works on an activation/inhibition model. When you give attention to negative things it literally inhibits your ability to see positive things, that’s why psychologists often say people with depression see a more depressed world. The more you start to give your attention to things that feel good, overtime, the more you will start to see a more positive world and you will find yourself noticing fewer of the negatives in life.
Once you are aware you can do it, shifting your attention is something you can have complete control over. You can choose what you want to pay attention to, and as a result you can choose how you want to feel. Does that sound too easy? Here is a tip that will make it even easier. There are only two things in life that you can pay attention to that cause you to experience emotion: things you want and things you don’t want. Every single thing that you can think of that causes any type of significant emotion can be sorted into one of those two categories. Breakups, job loss, betrayal, death of a loved one—all things you don’t want; pets, best friends, birthday parties, getting a raise—all things you do want. You will always know when you are giving your attention to things that you don’t want in life, because your emotions will tell you. Paying attention to things you don’t want generates negative emotions, while paying attention to things you do want generates positive ones. When you realize that you are experiencing a negative emotion, recognize in that moment that you are giving your attention to something unwanted and consciously choose to shift your attention to something you want instead. You will start to feel better almost immediately. This type of proactive avoidance isn't unhealthy; Joseph Ledoux an NYU Neuroscientist and expert on Emotional Intelligence refers to it as a positive coping strategy that can give you greater control over your life and attentional control training has been shown to be effective in the treatment of depression and anxiety. One way to shift your attention to the postive that we know works very well is to practice gratitude: things that you are thankful for are all wanted things in your life.
One of the most self-sabotaging things that people can give their attention to is an unwanted future. Nothing in the future has actually happened, yet many people spend a good deal of their time experiencing negative emotions like anxiety, fear, and self-doubt because they are giving their attention to things they don’t want to occur. Doing this not only robs them of their present-moment happiness but prevents them from thinking about the positive experiences they could instead be creating in their future.
Our attention is the gateway to what we experience in life. Learning to notice what you are paying attention to, and how to redirect your attention to things you want, can change not only your current experience but also the life you create for yourself going forward.
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Jennice Vilhauer, PhD, is the author of Think Forward to Thrive: How to Use the Mind's Power of Anticipation to Transcend Your Past and Transform Your Life and the developer of Future Directed Therapy