Living with Emotional Intensity

From healing to thriving, the misfit’s way.

Imi Lo

Our Fear of Love

It may seem paradoxical at first glance, but the answer to healing from defensive non-attachment is actually to affirm our autonomy and resilience.

Why Do I Feel Empty and Numb?

Though it sounds paradoxical, many emotionally intense and sensitive people struggle with “emotional numbness."

Our Quest for Love—What Do We Really Want From Our Partner?

Sometimes, we can't help but act out of unrealistic demands and projections. When our partner disappoints us, the situation provides valuable information.

Are Your Loved Ones "Out of Sight, Out of Mind"?

Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood.

Invisible Wounds of the Sensitive, Intense Child: Part 2

Children who are emotionally gifted are more likely to fall into specific roles in their families, and their woundings remain unspoken and unnoticed.

Invisible Wounds of the Sensitive, Emotionally Intense Child

Children who are emotionally gifted are more likely to fall into specific roles in their families, and their woundings remain unspoken and unnoticed.

Being a Non-Conformist and the Guilt of Breaking Away

For some people, breaking away from their hometown and family of origin is not just a yearning, but a calling.

The Non-Conforming Asian Women

The rigid social standards are especially abrasive and coercive for the innately intense, sensitive and gifted women.

A New Outlook on Treating Addictions and Compulsions

If we were to peel back, one layer after another, to the root of what now seems to be an unruly beast, we often find a tiny, fragile seed of deprived need.

I Already Know My Emotional Triggers, Now What?

If you have tried everything and nothing has worked, perhaps it is time we try a different way.

Were You an Intense Child?

Some people are more intense than others. That intense child inside is waiting to be heard, seen, and embraced for who they are.

The Unexpected Gifts Inside Borderline Personality

People with BPD traits are highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent.

Feeling Intensely: The Wounds of Being "Too Much"

Some people feel more than others. They are often told—in so many words—that they are too much, too intense, too sensitive, too emotional, or too dramatic.