Living with Emotional Intensity

From healing to thriving, the misfit’s way.

Imi Lo

3 Types of Narcissistic Parental Abuse

Covert narcissistic parents are much harder to spot. On the surface, they often appear to be very loving and charming, but they may harbour deep-seated feelings of jealousy.

9 Career Challenges Faced by Gifted Adults

Gifted individuals often face unique challenges in their career paths. They may also find it challenging to connect with most people or be adequately stimulated.

Are You Having an Existential Crisis?

Are you questioning the meaning of your life or feel numb, empty, and unfulfilled? How to cope when you feel that everything you have done is meaningless.

3 Types of Emotionally Unavailable Partners

To enhance your relationship, know these four types of emotionally unavailable partners.

Gifted People Can Be Wounded, Too

Most people would not think of being highly sensitive, empathic, intelligent, insightful, and inquisitive as a cause for childhood trauma. Here are 8 less-known gifted traumas.

5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

Repressed anger can lead to depression, paranoia, and passive-aggressive behavior. Unfortunately, many people are not aware of their own repressed anger.

Why Do People Have Repressed Anger?

Repressed anger involves the messages we have received in the past. With patience, however, the pattern can be changed.

3 Toxic Sibling Relationship Dynamics

Difficult sibling dynamics include "The Golden Child and the Black Sheep," and "The Bully and the Silenced One."

What Happens When One Partner Feels Like They're Doing All the Work

Overfunctioners and underfunctioners may attract each other. As time goes by, problems like resentment and 'losing the spark' may emerge.

Does Your Partner Have OCPD?

Is your partner preoccupied with orderliness, perfectionism, and control? They may have Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder.

Challenges Faced by Highly Rational Women

Highly rational women don't always have a place given to them in society, so sometimes, they have to take it.

The Struggles of Quiet BPD

People with "quiet" BPD turn anger inward rather than outward. Even they may appear stoic, they are deeply sensitive on the inside.

Attachment Styles and Borderline Personality Disorder

How borderline personality disorder presents may depend in part on someone's attachment style, formed during their childhood and influencing how they interact with others.

Do You Drown, or Do You Run Away?

When do you do when a crisis hits you? True resilience is found in a middle ground where you neither drown in emotions nor avoid them altogether.

Which Should Come First, Emotional Connection or Sexual Attraction?

Is emotional bonding a prerequisite for you to be sexually attracted to a person? Is the concept of so-called "love at first sight" unfathomable for you?

Why Intelligence Is Such a Powerful Turn-On for Some People

Being a sapiosexual does not make you arrogant or unrealistic. It is an orientation as valid as any other.

What It's Like Having a Parent With Borderline Personality Disorder

Having a parent with BPD can bring on painful trauma, but healing and transformation are possible.

Alexithymia: Do You Know What You Feel?

Healing from a disconnection with your emotions.

Could You Have High-Functioning BPD?

Having high-functioning BPD means you suffer more, not less. Here are the complex psychological dynamics behind it.

Gifted Adult Therapy: The Wounds of Being 'Too Intense'

Some questions you may want to ask a therapist before committing to a course of therapy or coaching with them.

Why You May Want to Listen to Your Dreams

To access our unconscious feelings, buried desires, suppressed anger, and unprocessed trauma, we need to start listening to our dreams.

Do You Have Paranoid and Controlling Parents?

Are your parents anxious and paranoid? Are their emotions often out of control? Here's how you can understand them better.

Have You Been Used as an Emotional Sponge?

It may surprise you that this can happen, but people can indeed force you to process their unwanted psychic materials for them.

Did You Have to Grow Up Too Soon?

Sensitive, empathic, and gifted children are especially prone to becoming the emotional caretaker of the family.

Do You Have "Quiet BPD"?  

If you have Quiet BPD, rather than act out, you act in. You do not show your inner turmoil, but direct the anger, hate, and blame toward yourself.

Relationships for the Emotionally Intense and Sensitive


Intense people are fierce and passionate lovers. However, they face specific challenges due to their heightened sensitivity, speed of operation, and high level of intuition. 

5 Ways to Survive an Argument When Your Loved One Has BPD

The more you blame yourself for not being able to rescue the situation or help them, the less healthy the relationship will be.

4 Ways to Release Anger Towards Your Parents

Some child-parent relationships are marred by anger and hurt. Here’s how you may be able to release the anger towards your parents and move on in life.

Do You Have a “Normal Part” and a “Traumatized Part?"

Complex trauma, borderline personality disorder, and structural dissociation.

Existential Crisis: Coming Home to Ourselves

At the end of your existential darkness, you will come to a new level of intimacy with life, with yourself, and with people in your life. You become a fuller human.

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