What to Do when Your Soul Screams, “Enough!”
When you’re REALLY fed up and ready to bail out, listen for the voice of wisdom.
Posted Oct 30, 2014
You’ve been putting so much energy into this. It might be a relationship, an arduous task, or the pursuit of a far-away goal—one that you aren’t sure you can actually reach. You’ve expended great effort but have seen little progress. Still, despite the frustrations, you’ve chosen to press on. Persistence is good, right? So you push...and you push...and you push some more.
“THIS HAS TO STOP!”
Whoa. You weren’t expecting this. You’ve been so committed to this pursuit.
But still, here it is: Although it might range from a whisper to an outright scream, something is telling you to put on the brakes.
So...now what are you supposed to do?
This would be a good time to engage in a process of discernment. Think it through: If you follow this impulse, where is it likely to lead? Will it take you toward greater life, love, and freedom, or will it take you farther away from these things? You might work through this discernment process on your own, but it can also be helpful to talk it through with someone you trust. This person could be a spiritual director, a therapist, a member of the clergy, or a trusted friend or relative---but ideally it will be someone who doesn’t already have a stake in a particular outcome.
Taking the time for discernment can be vitally important, because that inner voice that is telling you, “ENOUGH!” could come from some very different sources. Here are three important sources to consider:
Discernment does take more time and energy than simply following our impulses. But that effort can yield big payoffs over the long term, especially for major decisions. By taking the time for discernment, we can pursue the path of wisdom rather than setting ourselves up for regret.