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Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP
Your "best choice" may be neither practical nor strategic. As complex humans with hearts and souls as well as material needs and desires, it's best sometimes to trust your gut.
Maximize well-being by using Carol Ryff's six-dimensional model to discriminate between wants and needs.
When sorting out your wants from your needs, your temperament can provide clues to your unique priorities. Examine the nine biologically-based traits visible following birth.
Do you often make regrettable choices? Examining an underlying need can help you identify a choice that may maximize your time, money, attention.
How attraction can grow as a relationship becomes deeper and more meaningful.
Viewing your work life through a wide-angle lens may offer you ways to find it more meaningful and rewarding personally, materially, and in contribution to your relationships.
Did the pandemic lead you to redefine what you want from your work life? Are you considering choosing a new direction? Ask yourself about the role of work in your life for clarity.
Appreciation for my mother's impeccable taste, a pair of shoes, and decades of remembering her gifts and courage.
A stunning stranger in an unexpected moment provided joy, musing, and the beginning of a better day.
In limiting physical relationships, the pandemic expanded our interactions with others who are geographically distant. This shift has brought challenges and benefits.
Spouses bring differences to a marriage—in perspectives, approaches to problems, priorities. Respecting the value of each other's contributions, a couple can survive and thrive.
By consciously navigating the challenges of a pandemic, a romantic love relationship of 25 years emerges with greater strength, intimacy, and gratitude. Here's how.
Two shots brought protection from serious illness or death. I am now able to envision possible futures. Five silver linings will remain with me; gratitude and hope abound.
My joy following vaccination against COVID-19 seemed outsized, so I looked to psychology to explain the intensity of reaction. The Zeigarnik Effect and repression brought insight.
Events at the nation's Capitol required many, myself included, to find ways to cope with complex emotions. I offer my own "go-to" responses, as well as advice from coping experts.
Do you suspect your dreams are bringing you insight? Consider six types of dreams and three ways in which we uniquely assign meaning to them to harness the power of your imagery.
The creative process requires five components: preparation, incubation, illumination, review, and revision. Miracles happen when we address a challenge with an open mind and persistence.
A seven-level pyramid of language sheds light on how we grasp our experiences.
Relax, climb into your imagination, and allow color to wash over you. Watch your emotional reactions. Then learn about scientists who study the color-emotion associations.
Stress in America is peaking. Here are five tips for managing emotional contagion in times of high anxiety.
Journalist Jennifer Senior shed light on why we can be so deeply affected by political conflict. Bronfenbrenner's ecological model of human development also offers insight.
Attention to our breathing, senses, responses to stimuli, flow of attention, stream of thought, and reaction to stretching can promote intimacy.
Edwidge Danicat's "Everything Inside" is 8 short stories illustrating relationship truths. We need love, we are hard-wired to give, and we grow in wisdom through inevitable grief.
Older adults face greater risk from the pandemic than younger ones yet suffer fewer psychological symptoms and less suicidal behavior. Couples' shared experience can up resilience.
The pandemic has brought new meaning to "long-distance relationships." Explore some of the benefits and challenges of when a close relationship takes place more online than in person.
When the demands of a complicated September threaten to overwhelm you, tend to maintenance, mastery, and social relationships.
Yoga and its emphasis on breathing brought me comfort, insight, and power. A clinical trial comparing three wellness programs for students and a new book support my discovery.
When a sudden event disrupts your future, your nervous system automatically responds. Tools can help you restore balance and promote your well-being so you can respond optimally.
When life issues invitations or makes demands, we can choose our own response. Ambient and discretionary stimuli can direct, inspire, or engage our imagination, influencing action.
Our internal states, whether or not we are conscious of them, often determine our behavior, undermining our best intentions or surprising us by our own inclinations or actions.
Roni Beth Tower, PhD, a retired clinical, research and academic psychologist, earned a BA from Barnard (Religion), her PhD from Yale, and did postdoctoral work in epidemiology and public health at Yale Medical School.