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Pondering the emotional side of life, beginning to end.
Deborah L. Davis Ph.D.
Why parents tend to feel overwhelmed with grief, particularly during that first year, and what can help.
Annoyed or distressed that your partner isn’t interested in sex? Taking the lead by forging a resilient connection can be mutually beneficial.
Four practices that can retrain your mind to remind you of all the reasons you found your partner attractive in the first place.
What if your partner has become physically unappealing to you? Here are 4 strategies to help you shift your focus in ways that can benefit you both.
How common is childbirth-related trauma? Some researchers propose that new parents be routinely screened for post-traumatic stress, just as they are screened for postpartum depression.
Instead of trying to win your ex back, focus on your own life. Pursuing your own self-respect, integrity, growth, and happiness will set you up for success.
For preterm and low birthweight newborns, is high-tech medical care really superior to skin-to-skin contact? A new study confirms mothers’ bare chests are best.
When you're entering a new chapter, life often presents options. How can you wisely determine which path to take?
Make every day Valentine's Day by practicing self-compassion. Having a great relationship with yourself results in true happiness, and fosters great relationships with others.
When your brain is stressed out, your relationship can suffer. Practice these three brain-calming habits to help you restore harmony and reconnect with your partner.
Joseph Epstein, an opinion writer for The Wall Street Journal, has been called out for criticizing the soon-to-be First Lady for using the title, “Dr.” Let’s call him in, instead.
Stress affects your brain, which can throw your relationship off the rails. These insights can help you key into what's really going on and get back on track.
Chronic stress is hard on your brain and body. To boost your coping and resilience, practice focusing on your breath. This simple meditation can improve the quality of your life.
When a baby dies during pregnancy, birth, or infancy, many parents grieve deeply but also worry about the intensity of their reactions. Why is this bereavement so hard to bear?
Having an affair with a married man? Does he swear true love, but won't leave his wife? Spot the red flags, save yourself, and move on.
Here is what you can do to support bereaved parents.” See what accepting and connecting entails, how it works, why it benefits parents, and how it benefits you, too.
From pandemic to protests to politics, it’s critical for you to be a smart consumer of news and information. Here are seven tips on how to judge sources, facts, and opinions.
To be an effective ally for racial justice, it helps to examine the roots of systemic racism.
As peaceful protests become violent, lets look at what's happening and why, plus five ideas on what we can do to cast off the systemic racism that poisons our society.
Do you find yourself criticizing people for how they respond to stay-at-home orders? Try to practice curiosity, compassion, and acceptance instead.
Are you resisting the restrictions of social distancing and stay-at-home laws? Let's look at the possible exponential spread of this coronavirus, and you may find it easier to comply.
Protect-and-direct bereavement care is "what not to do." But this practice can be a longstanding habit that's hard to break. How can you begin to change your ways? Start here.
After a baby dies, protecting parents from pain and directing them to move on might sound good. But this approach bothers parents and does real harm. Let’s explore how and why.
Let’s review the beliefs that drive us to “protect and direct” bereaved parents, and explore how these thoughts translate into specific actions.
The urge to "protect & direct" is based on certain beliefs about bonding, death, and grieving and the related assumptions made. See which ones you hold, and ponder their influence.
Your words have a powerful effect on grieving parents, whether you’re a professional caregiver or a dear friend. Here are some insights on what to say.
Platitudes, euphemisms, and jargon do more than just inflict pain. They actually create distance. Be mindful of this effect, and understand the value of honest, open, plain talk.
Encouraging words, mild expressions, & medical jargon are meant to be kind and caring, but rarely have that effect on bereaved parents. Find out why, so you can offer real support.
Cognitive empathy discourages connecting with parents; emotional empathy makes it hard to accept parents as they are. Compassion is what enables us to skillfully accept & connect.
What’s the difference between compassion and empathy? Why is compassion key to supporting bereaved parents? How does it ward off burnout & increase your professional fulfillment?
Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D., is a developmental psychologist and the author of 6 books, including one about perinatal hospice titled A Gift of Time.