Knowing Feeling

Complex PTSD

How Anger Helps Recover Vitality After PTSD

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on May 19, 2024

Reclaiming our healthy anger after Complex PTSD helps restore not only appropriate boundaries, but a sense of self-worth and emotional vitality.

Reclaiming our healthy anger after Complex PTSD helps restore not only appropriate boundaries, but a sense of self-worth and emotional vitality.

Shame

The Compass of Shame

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on March 18, 2024

When shame is triggered, we use one or more of four scripted responses on the "Compass of Shame." They let us know shame has been triggered and some repair needs our attention.

When shame is triggered, we use one or more of four scripted responses on the "Compass of Shame." They let us know shame has been triggered and some repair needs our attention.

Complex PTSD

Finding a Sense of Wholeness

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on February 12, 2024

As self-compassion grows in the process of healing from CPTSD, possibilities also emerge through appreciation of who we once were, and who we are today.

As self-compassion grows in the process of healing from CPTSD, possibilities also emerge through appreciation of who we once were, and who we are today.

Self-Sabotage

Emotional Self-Sabotage

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on August 6, 2023

When it seems natural to want to feel good about ourselves, it's perplexing when we feel bad about feeling good. Healing this dichotomy starts with going compassionately inward.

When it seems natural to want to feel good about ourselves, it's perplexing when we feel bad about feeling good. Healing this dichotomy starts with going compassionately inward.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Managing Complex PTSD: Remembering How Far You've Come

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on August 8, 2022

Acknowledging gratitude for your own grit, determination, and perseverance may help start a different legacy for the next generations.

Acknowledging gratitude for your own grit, determination, and perseverance may help start a different legacy for the next generations.

Trauma

Start Finding Authentic Connections After Complex PTSD

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on June 14, 2022

When we manage early relational trauma, our heart's desire is to authentically relate in the present. The past may reveal adults who
gave us a blueprint to find that moving forward.

When we manage early relational trauma, our heart's desire is to authentically relate in the present. The past may reveal adults who
gave us a blueprint to find that moving forward.

Trauma

Echoes of Survival From Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on May 1, 2022

Our brilliant childhood strategies for surviving relational trauma may have difficult echoes in the present. Understanding these dynamics can begin our healing in adulthood.

Our brilliant childhood strategies for surviving relational trauma may have difficult echoes in the present. Understanding these dynamics can begin our healing in adulthood.

Education

The Healthy Value in Learning to “Need” Other People

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on March 22, 2022

For people managing CPSTD, it is possible to find a healthy balance between needing others and self-sufficiency.

For people managing CPSTD, it is possible to find a healthy balance between needing others and self-sufficiency.

Grief

5 Hidden Gifts of "Feeling Sorry for Yourself"

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on January 18, 2022

There are times when grieving for ourselves, for what came before, and for what we had no control of is not only appropriate
but also is the path of healing.

There are times when grieving for ourselves, for what came before, and for what we had no control of is not only appropriate
but also is the path of healing.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

5 Valuable Life Skills Often Learned by Those With Complex PTSD

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on January 4, 2022

There's no denying the challenges of surviving a childhood history of relational trauma. There can also be hidden resources, values, and strengths in adulthood.

There's no denying the challenges of surviving a childhood history of relational trauma. There can also be hidden resources, values, and strengths in adulthood.

Relationships

Well-Fathered Daughters

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on September 11, 2021

How fathers of daughters are needed to empower the women of tomorrow.

How fathers of daughters are needed to empower the women of tomorrow.

Anger

Looking Underneath the Source of Your Anger

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on May 20, 2021

Developing a sense of mastery with this difficult emotion can help.

Developing a sense of mastery with this difficult emotion can help.

Mindfulness

Minding Your Emotions

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on February 7, 2021

Has a mindfulness practice empowered your inner life? Drawing is another form of mindfulness that can tap into the wisdom of your body.

Has a mindfulness practice empowered your inner life? Drawing is another form of mindfulness that can tap into the wisdom of your body.

Anger

Distress and Overload: The Drumbeat of 'Too Much'

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on July 27, 2020

While the overload of too much distress is everywhere, understanding its roots can direct us to what relieves it—in ourselves and others.

While the overload of too much distress is everywhere, understanding its roots can direct us to what relieves it—in ourselves and others.

Resilience

Finding Resilience in Uncertain Times

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on April 5, 2020

Resilience in a time of difficulty can feel elusive. Here are seven approaches I've learned from clients.

Resilience in a time of difficulty can feel elusive. Here are seven approaches I've learned from clients.

Forgiveness

The Astros Lost It in the Sun: The Non-Apology Apology 

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on February 15, 2020

Intuitively, if not intellectually, we can all sense when an apology is sincere—and when it’s not. Here's why it's important to be able to say, “I’m sorry.”

Intuitively, if not intellectually, we can all sense when an apology is sincere—and when it’s not. Here's why it's important to be able to say, “I’m sorry.”

Embarrassment

The Value of Shame and Trust

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on February 2, 2020

When shame creates distance, trust bridges us to reconnection.

When shame creates distance, trust bridges us to reconnection.

Embarrassment

Shame Reframed: Pointing Towards Repair

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on January 1, 2020

As painful as the experience of shame is, understanding how disconnections occur, and how we react, can start us on the way to more productive reconnection in relationships.

As painful as the experience of shame is, understanding how disconnections occur, and how we react, can start us on the way to more productive reconnection in relationships.

Embarrassment

Shame Reframed

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on September 17, 2019

Do you carry a lot of shame? You're in the company of others who also care about connection.

Do you carry a lot of shame? You're in the company of others who also care about connection.

Cognition

The Building Blocks of Emotion

Jennifer Lock Oman LISW on August 26, 2019

Our emotions can overwhelm us at times. Mastery of those experiences can begin with knowing just nine innate affects.

Our emotions can overwhelm us at times. Mastery of those experiences can begin with knowing just nine innate affects.