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Attention
Because I Paid Attention, I Learned

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on August 12, 2023

A Personal Perspective: Paying attention to those around me and what they say, and do not say, has ultimately enriched my life.

A Personal Perspective: Paying attention to those around me and what they say, and do not say, has ultimately enriched my life.

Molly, the kindest of souls
Empathy
Consideration, Compassion, Kindness, and Empathy

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on February 18, 2023

A Personal Perspective: My actions of kindness and compassion are not for brownie points but for understanding that these qualities and actions add joy to my and others' lives.

A Personal Perspective: My actions of kindness and compassion are not for brownie points but for understanding that these qualities and actions add joy to my and others' lives.

Cole's first dandelion
Gratitude
What Our Pets and Little Ones Can Teach Us

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on December 3, 2022

A Personal Perspective: My little ones and furry one wake up intuitively expecting a marvelous day, and they help guide me back to joy.

A Personal Perspective: My little ones and furry one wake up intuitively expecting a marvelous day, and they help guide me back to joy.

The author and her mother, 2007
Career
My Mother's World: Her King Sized Bed

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on July 21, 2022

A Personal Perspective: I adjusted my young life to many prone activities, and all of this became normal; a level of warmth and comfort enveloped me as I lay on her bed.

A Personal Perspective: I adjusted my young life to many prone activities, and all of this became normal; a level of warmth and comfort enveloped me as I lay on her bed.

The author and her husband Paul
Gratitude
Attitude and Gratitude Are My Focus

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on May 12, 2022

A Personal Perspective: With every passing year, my outlook is that of gentle acceptance. When out of focus, I remind myself about my attitude and gratitude.

A Personal Perspective: With every passing year, my outlook is that of gentle acceptance. When out of focus, I remind myself about my attitude and gratitude.

Some of Marilyn's kitchen gifts
Friends
My Friend Taught Me, and I Listened

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on February 28, 2022

My friend Marilyn has been gone for six months, but she continues to guide me in awe-inspiring ways through my countless memories and daily thoughts of her.

My friend Marilyn has been gone for six months, but she continues to guide me in awe-inspiring ways through my countless memories and daily thoughts of her.

Molly and her human
Cognition
The Comforting Language of Dog

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on December 20, 2021

One of the best parts about having a furry child is the ability to communicate without words, without so many sounds taking up space. 

One of the best parts about having a furry child is the ability to communicate without words, without so many sounds taking up space. 

Auntie Marilyn and Adam, the author's son
Friends
An Enduring and Remarkable Friendship

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on May 5, 2021

Putting on makeup and helping me with my hair are tiny lessons, all precursors for loving teachings that have joyfully spanned 53 years and counting. 

Putting on makeup and helping me with my hair are tiny lessons, all precursors for loving teachings that have joyfully spanned 53 years and counting. 

The author and her husband Paul
Relationships
Two Types of Love: Easy and Hard

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on March 1, 2021

I have far less time in front of me than behind, so relationships that I once tolerated, that have become too hard, I have let go.

I have far less time in front of me than behind, so relationships that I once tolerated, that have become too hard, I have let go.

The author's dream house, dollhouse
Child Development
A Dream House in a Dollhouse

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on November 9, 2020

Sometimes, it is the simple pleasures of our childhoods that provide the necessary antidotes to the challenges of our adult lives.

Sometimes, it is the simple pleasures of our childhoods that provide the necessary antidotes to the challenges of our adult lives.

Fear
Why Does a Writer Stop Writing?

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on September 17, 2020

It is the fear of putting my thoughts down and the pain and anguish that they will cause me, for writing has a permanence that my thoughts do not. 

It is the fear of putting my thoughts down and the pain and anguish that they will cause me, for writing has a permanence that my thoughts do not. 

One of many sections in the author's library
Gratitude
Grateful in the Time of Coronavirus

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on March 18, 2020

While I can easily focus on the bleakness of the news during the coronavirus, instead I focus on what I appreciate in my life.

While I can easily focus on the bleakness of the news during the coronavirus, instead I focus on what I appreciate in my life.

The author and her mother in 2007
Relationships
Time: Looking Back and Being Present

Barbara A Jaffe Ed.D. on January 12, 2020

I first wrote those words when I was over a decade younger and perhaps a little more self-assured to believe there was more time than there really was. Here are my reflections today.

I first wrote those words when I was over a decade younger and perhaps a little more self-assured to believe there was more time than there really was. Here are my reflections today.