Inviting a Monkey to Tea

Guilt

A Good Mother Can Rewrite the Narrative and Drop the Guilt

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on December 3, 2025

Personal Perspective: Imagine how good we could be if we were free from the narratives on what it means to be a good mother.

Personal Perspective: Imagine how good we could be if we were free from the narratives on what it means to be a good mother.

Guilt

The Radical Choice of Saying 'No' to the Bad Mom Narrative

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 27, 2025

It's time to flip the script. You can reject the "bad mom" cultural narrative and all that comes with it.

It's time to flip the script. You can reject the "bad mom" cultural narrative and all that comes with it.

Guilt

A Radical Choice: Becoming a Guilt-Free Mom

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 21, 2025

A Personal Perspective: Claiming what you do right, not just what you do wrong.

A Personal Perspective: Claiming what you do right, not just what you do wrong.

Resilience

Finding Your North Star in Dark Times

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 2, 2025

Personal Perspective: Feeling grounded is possible, even when the world has no ground.

Personal Perspective: Feeling grounded is possible, even when the world has no ground.

Loneliness

How Following Up With a Friend Can Cure Loneliness

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 15, 2025

Loneliness is curable, and so much easier than we imagine.

Loneliness is curable, and so much easier than we imagine.

Loneliness

The Startlingly Simple Way to Not Feel Lonely

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on September 11, 2025

Loneliness is curable, and the remedy may be much simpler than you imagine.

Loneliness is curable, and the remedy may be much simpler than you imagine.

Psychology

What Wags Your Tail? Shifting Your Relationship With "Want"

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on August 9, 2025

Do you have trouble knowing what you really "want"? You may be asking yourself the wrong question.

Do you have trouble knowing what you really "want"? You may be asking yourself the wrong question.

Adolescence

Stop Trying to Change Your Partner? But What About the Kids?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on June 29, 2025

We want to let go of trying to change our partner—but if we do, our kids may suffer. What then?

We want to let go of trying to change our partner—but if we do, our kids may suffer. What then?

Parenting

Graduation Madness: Celebrating as a Competitive Sport

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on May 25, 2025

How much do we need to do and buy to feel celebrated these days?

How much do we need to do and buy to feel celebrated these days?

Fear

We'll Do Anything to Avoid Conflict, Even Lose Friends

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on May 14, 2025

Personal Perspective: We're afraid of conflict, and so we avoid the hard conversations, but it doesn't help.

Personal Perspective: We're afraid of conflict, and so we avoid the hard conversations, but it doesn't help.

Relationships

"But I Did It for You": Navigating the Martyr

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on April 26, 2025

How to break the cycle of dysfunctional relationships where others sacrifice their own needs but do it—or claim to do it—for you.

How to break the cycle of dysfunctional relationships where others sacrifice their own needs but do it—or claim to do it—for you.

Self-Talk

What Stories Are You Telling Yourself Inside Your Head?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on April 15, 2025

What stories are you telling yourself inside your head? Are they keeping you trapped in the same unsatisfying life?

What stories are you telling yourself inside your head? Are they keeping you trapped in the same unsatisfying life?

Fear

Permission to Step Off the Fear and Outrage Treadmill

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on March 11, 2025

A Personal Perspective: You're allowed to take a break from, fear and outrage...you don't have to feel guilty.

A Personal Perspective: You're allowed to take a break from, fear and outrage...you don't have to feel guilty.

Anxiety

How to Stop Worrying Yourself From Sleep

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on March 1, 2025

The fact that you have situations that feel messy, uncomfortable, or unfinished tells you one thing and one thing only—that you’re alive.

The fact that you have situations that feel messy, uncomfortable, or unfinished tells you one thing and one thing only—that you’re alive.

Sleep

A Bedroom of One's Own: Are We Allowed to Want It?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 14, 2025

When you hide what you really want because of someone else's story about you.

When you hide what you really want because of someone else's story about you.

Catastrophizing

How to Stay Calm in Worrying Times

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on February 9, 2025

Even when the world seems scary, you don't have to live in fear.

Even when the world seems scary, you don't have to live in fear.

Happiness

How to Stop Proving You're Right (Even When You Are)

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 3, 2024

When you're fighting to be "right," ask yourself: does any of this really matter?

When you're fighting to be "right," ask yourself: does any of this really matter?

Happiness

Are You Living the Menu Not the Meal?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on November 1, 2024

What if you stopped telling yourself about your life and started living it?

What if you stopped telling yourself about your life and started living it?

Relationships

The Fight to Be Right: What Are You Fighting For?

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 26, 2024

It looks like there's one world, but there are actually 8 billion worlds. The "truth" depends on whose head you’re inside and whose movie you’re watching.

It looks like there's one world, but there are actually 8 billion worlds. The "truth" depends on whose head you’re inside and whose movie you’re watching.

Cognition

How to Unstick Your Mind From Negative Thoughts

Nancy Colier LCSW, Rev. on October 23, 2024

"You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it."

"You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it."