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Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D.
Sensitivity is essential in romantic relationships. Nevertheless, too much romantic sensitivity can be harmful and a limited degree of indifference is required.
Our love lives are full of romantic regrets, ranging from our choices of unsuitable partners to missed romantic opportunities. Do those regrets have a functional value?
Nurturing, rather than preventative behavior, is the most efficient method of self-control in profound love.
Why intense passion isn't the only component of a successful relationship.
Unlike occasional achievements, a person’s ongoing success can sometimes be harmful to one’s partner and relationship.
Anyone can produce big romantic gestures, but it's through small, daily actions that genuine lovers maintain truly loving relationships.
Here are 4 ways to develop a healthy pickiness, which increases the chances of finding a suitable partner.
Flirting is an enjoyable and playful romantic game encompassing many contradictory aspects, which an ambitious flirt must master in order to be successful.
Romantic Ideology assumes the eternal and exclusive nature of love and consequently creates major difficulties for many. Is this ideology still valuable?
The most comfortable and easy location to have sex is in bed. Why, then, do so many people prefer to have sex outdoors?
Why are people attracted to their exes? Is renewal of romantic bonds for sexual satisfaction a good idea?
Derogatory terms like cougar and gold-digger are directed solely at women in relationships with big age gaps. Why does society adopt such double standards?
Intimate kissing is central in romantic and sexual experiences. Why, then, do some people avoid it during casual encounters?
Romantic thriving is more than surviving; it nurtures our values and capacities, and it's influenced by attitudes like self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-fulfillment.
Falling in love is an exhilarating experience for most people. Why then, do so many people fear falling in love?
Self-disclosure is important in romantic relationships, but should it include one’s sexual history?
There are people who fall in love quickly, easily, and frequently. Does this way of falling in love promote an enduring, profound love?
Issues of comparison feature heavily in both thought and emotions. Is comparison, which often leads to envy and jealousy, less poisonous in open romantic relationships?
Many romantic relations are unsettled and therefore not entirely fulfilled. Why is the passion in these relations so strong, and can we speak about exciting calmness?
Sex and food are connected in many ways; are they also similar in terms of morality?
Women say that they hate stinginess in a man. Why? And if this is really so, who do stingy men marry?
Most men would love to hear that they are “good in bed.” Yet can something so good, in fact, be bad?
Can casual sex be part of profound friendship? How similar is “friendship with sex” to romantic love?
Are "sugar babies" girlfriends or sex workers? It seems that they walk a line between the two.
The dancing heart and the thinking head are powerful rivals in romantic love. Should the head be ranking our romantic priorities — or should the heart lead the romantic dance?
Compersion is a recently coined term that describes your happiness from your partner’s happiness with another lover. How is such an experience possible?
A sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to intelligence. What is so appealing about intelligence, and why are librarians perceived as sexy but not philosophers?
While kissing may seem like minor touching, it is crucial in romance. Hence, many people hesitate before marrying a bad kisser. Are they right to do so?
In romance sensitivity enjoys high regard, while indifference appears downright malignant. Yet, I believe that sensible indifference is essential to enduring romantic love.
When decreasing inequality enhances envy and increasing inequality stokes love.
Aaron Ben-Zeév, Ph.D., former President of the University of Haifa, is a professor of philosophy. His books include The Arc of Love: How Our Romantic Lives Change Over Time.