A loving relationship can be an oasis in uncertain times, but nurturing it requires attention, honesty, openness, vulnerability, and gratitude.
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Rethinking the way we treat ourselves.
Juliana Breines Ph.D.
Certain personality traits are associated with better relationships, career success, and other benefits. But taken too far, these traits can have the reverse effect.
The best way to respond when we’ve been hurt may depend on a number of factors, including the offender’s intentions.
These psychological biases may hinder your ability not just to reach your goals, but to know what they are in the first place.
People sometimes behave in ways they know to be unethical yet continue to see themselves as moral people. Here are some possible reasons why.
Are you being self-compassionate or just taking the easy way out? Ask yourself these four questions to distinguish between the two.
Misconceptions about non-parents are common and can make for awkward conversations. Here are some tips for navigating them.
Do you ever find yourself staying up too late despite your best intentions? If so, this approach might help.
Social distancing is essential for saving lives during the pandemic. Here are some ideas for reducing the feelings of loneliness that can accompany it.
Research suggests that the way we evaluate others provides insight into our own desires, fears, and personalities.
Regret is hard to avoid, but there are ways to lighten the burden. Research suggests that these three perspective shifts can help.
Far from self-indulgence, this strategy might be a more effective way to reach your goals.
It’s natural to want to be happier. But research suggests that the things we do to increase our happiness don’t always work the way we hope they will.
On the surface, a lack of willpower might seem like a personal failing, but research suggests the truth is more complicated. In some situations, it may be the more logical choice.
Why do people sometimes behave in ways that put their health at risk, even when they have no desire to harm themselves? Research suggests social concerns can play a role.
It’s common to have fears and insecurities about relationships, but sometimes these fears take on a life of their own—with destructive consequences.
Success may inspire others, but it can also fuel resentment. Here’s why — and what you can do about it.
“Never settle” is a helpful mantra, but it can cause problems when taken to an extreme.
Many people are overly critical of their appearance. If you're one of them, self-compassion might help.
The desire to feel good about our own decisions can sometimes lead us to scoff at those who’ve made different ones.
Does the idea of treating yourself with kindness make you feel uncomfortable? A recent study sheds light on why that might be.
Nervous about going home for the holidays because of the political blow-ups that might ensue? Try these three strategies.
To improve your diet, change the way you see yourself.
Lengthy commutes can threaten health and happiness, but they don’t have to. Here are seven research-based suggestions for surviving (and maybe even enjoying) your commute.
Want to turn a friendship into a romance? This simple strategy just might work.
It’s normal to wonder how we measure up in relation to others, but dwelling too much on these judgments has a cost.
For a culture so obsessed with self-improvement, we’re not very good at it. But there is hope, if we change our approach.
Reflecting on the past can enrich the present (and the future) in unexpected ways.
Unsure whether an unconventional path is worth the struggle? Consider these seven reasons to stick it out.
When you’re feeling bad about yourself, these approaches may be tempting, but they’re unlikely to serve you in the long run.
Are you following your heart—or your name? Research suggests that we gravitate to people, places, and things that sound like our own names, often without realizing it.
Juliana Breines, Ph.D., is a social and health psychologist whose research examines how self-compassion relates to stress reactivity, behavior change, and body image.