In Control

A new approach to living well

Timothy A Carey Ph.D.

The Problem With White Supremacy

On a level playing field, we can all enjoy the supreme magnificence of which we are capable.

Thinking About Good and Poor Control

Controlling is most straightforward when we help the controlling efforts of others.

Toward a New Model of Leadership

Surely any group will be successful when its members are able to achieve their own goals without preventing others from doing the same.

The World’s Greatest Challenge Isn't COVID-19

Global calamities can reveal the goals and standards that leaders actually prioritize regardless of what their rhetoric is.

When Is Enough Enough?

Life is the business of creating and maintaining the world we know in the "just right" states we want it to be in.

Shall We Dance? The Music That You Move To

A Personal Perspective: Keep dancing no matter what the tune. Contented living arises from the ability to stay the course; finding a way to dance to whatever music is playing.

Why You Don't Have to Worry About Achieving Goals Anymore

Failing to achieve a goal often just means another goal is being satisfied instead.

Life Is a Limiting Factor

Social groups that are characterized by shrinking opportunities for many and simultaneously burgeoning opportunities for a few are precariously imbalanced.

A Storm Brewing

Have You Ever Been Told You Should Live in the Moment?

Whenever you are noticing being in the moment in the moment, you are not doing the activity in the moment in which you were previously engaged.

Are You Sure You Choose Your Views?

Just because you have a range of options does not necessarily mean you can choose equally between them.

Your Way Is Not My Way

The extent to which advice from another is precisely followed and routinely offers safe passage out of one’s existing turmoil is vastly overrated.

Why Do I Have to Be the Best That I Can Be?

Keeping the difference very small between the way the world is and the way we want it to be is the secret to contentment.

A Reconciled Mind

Minds that have been engineered to control are designed to create and maintain a reconciled status.

Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?

Your mind has all the machinery it requires to create a solution that is genuinely your answer to your troubles.

Actually, You’re Not as Special as You Think You Are

Being yourself is about as special as digestion or thermoregulation or neuroplasticity. It’s going to happen anyway.

Who Cares What Others Want?

Whether we like it or not, help, if it is to be experienced as helpful, can only be defined by the one being helped, not the one providing the help.

The Game of Life Is Bad for Us All

It is well within our capabilities to create the conditions such that life for all our global citizens is a picnic.

What's So Bad About Trying to Control?

Control needs to be celebrated, honored, applauded, supported, facilitated, bolstered, assisted, and promoted.

It’s Not The Words But The Thought That Counts

Just because we don’t understand why someone else is doing what they’re doing, that doesn’t mean that what they are doing is wrong.

Well-Being and That Virus

In this time of no sense, you need to make the sense that makes sense to you.

Rid Yourself of Bad Habits

Finding the sparkle in all your facets will lighten your life and brighten your outlook.

Are We Evolving a New Cooperative Consciousness?

Everywhere you look, there are examples of people cooperating and contributing to the collective effort.

COVID-19: We've Been Here Before

Will this teensiest of agents help us learn some of our biggest lessons?

Who Wants Inequality?

Pretty much all of our activity can be understood as part of the process of goal achievement.

The Selfishness of Altruism

Being helpful means treating other people as they want to be treated.

Have You Got What You Deserve?

Harmonious communities will emerge when people have what they require to live a life that is just right according to their own design.

Mental Health and Control

“Schizophrenia” won’t be found in a petri dish.

You'll Never Reach Your Potential

Today, you are the realization of yesterday’s potential you.

There's Madness in Our Methods

It is madness to use methods to answer questions they were not designed to answer.

You Have to Control

Even not controlling is control.

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