In Control

A new approach to living well

Timothy Carey Ph.D.

Well-Being and That Virus

In this time of no sense, you need to make the sense that makes sense to you.

Rid Yourself of Bad Habits

Finding the sparkle in all your facets will lighten your life and brighten your outlook.

Are We Evolving a New Cooperative Consciousness?

Everywhere you look, there are examples of people cooperating and contributing to the collective effort.

COVID-19: We've Been Here Before

Will this teensiest of agents help us learn some of our biggest lessons?

Who Wants Inequality?

Pretty much all of our activity can be understood as part of the process of goal achievement.

The Selfishness of Altruism

Being helpful means treating other people as they want to be treated.

Have You Got What You Deserve?

Harmonious communities will emerge when people have what they require to live a life that is just right according to their own design.

Mental Health and Control

“Schizophrenia” won’t be found in a petri dish.

You'll Never Reach Your Potential

Today, you are the realization of yesterday’s potential you.

There's Madness in Our Methods

It is madness to use methods to answer questions they were not designed to answer.

You Have to Control

Even not controlling is control.

Finding Normal

If defining normal is an insurmountable problem, then surely defining abnormal becomes impossible or nonsensical (or both).

The Super Beings Who Are the Masters of Change

The more a proposed change is unexpected and severe, and the more it interrupts or blocks a person’s goals, the more extremely the person will respond.

The Red Herring of Diagnostic Reliability

The fundamental problem with reliability is that it will not, and cannot, tell us what we want to know.

There’s No Such Thing as Behavior

If you want to get to know someone, learn about their goals.

Mental Health Diagnosis: Just Say No!

Understanding people and helping them with the problems they experience will not arise by allocating them to one or more DSM categories.

The Being of Goals

Most people, most of the time, just navigate themselves through one day after another keeping an endless parade of goals well-tended and satisfied.

Goals R Us

An achievement is only an achievement because a goal has been captured.

Seven Dangerous Little Words

Once we can embrace our ignorance of each other’s worlds we might become more welcome in them.

Group of High School Students Walking Along Hallway

Why Won't You Admit You're a Controller?

You alone hold the key to your own contentment.

What Causes Contentment?

We're designed to be in balance.

Control

Understanding and enhancing control is the best chance we’ve got of building a world we’d all like to call home.

How Do You Measure Up?

Does reminding yourself how inferior you are have an important function for the journey you are on?

Piece of Mind for Peace of Mind

It may be that, at the heart of all psychological distress, there are two or more parts insisting that incompatible courses of action are followed by the one body.