In Control

Motivation

When Are You Unapologetically You?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on June 6, 2025

There’s nothing more beautiful than people controlling the things they care about without hindering others from doing the same thing.

There’s nothing more beautiful than people controlling the things they care about without hindering others from doing the same thing.

Autism

The Other Day I Was Told I Was Neurotypical

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on May 18, 2025

Control is key to embracing simultaneously inclusion and diversity so that individuals can thrive and communities can flourish.

Control is key to embracing simultaneously inclusion and diversity so that individuals can thrive and communities can flourish.

Motivation

You Can't Let Go of Control

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on April 7, 2025

Control is all there is to life. To solve all our pressing problems of living and make this global village the home that every dweller wants it to be, control must be our guide.

Control is all there is to life. To solve all our pressing problems of living and make this global village the home that every dweller wants it to be, control must be our guide.

Mindfulness

Are You Ashamed to Want?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on March 12, 2025

The entire business of living can be understood as the ceaseless activity of feeding our wants.

The entire business of living can be understood as the ceaseless activity of feeding our wants.

Coaching

When Advice Is Most Helpful

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on February 6, 2025

Personal Perspective: Finding ways to put those who are being helped in charge of the help they receive, including how they receive it, might be the most helpful thing we can do.

Personal Perspective: Finding ways to put those who are being helped in charge of the help they receive, including how they receive it, might be the most helpful thing we can do.

Relationships

What Are Your Stories of You?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on January 23, 2025

The ideas we have about who we are and how we are living our life could be called stories. Even though we could tell ourselves any story, we seem to create particular stories.

The ideas we have about who we are and how we are living our life could be called stories. Even though we could tell ourselves any story, we seem to create particular stories.

Memory

I Know I Know It

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on December 27, 2024

When someone is in combat with themselves, it often helps if they talk out loud about the war in which they’re engaged.

When someone is in combat with themselves, it often helps if they talk out loud about the war in which they’re engaged.

Happiness

We’re All in the Goldilocks Business

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on November 8, 2024

Everything we do centers around keeping the just rights that determine, and are determined by, our living, exactly the way we want them to be.

Everything we do centers around keeping the just rights that determine, and are determined by, our living, exactly the way we want them to be.

Identity

Does It Matter if You Matter?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on October 9, 2024

The paradox of mattering is that if I want to matter, I rely on others for that to happen.

The paradox of mattering is that if I want to matter, I rely on others for that to happen.

Motivation

Do You Ever Have to Restrain Yourself?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on September 5, 2024

Holding back and resisting are necessary aspects of restraint. Restraining involves wanting something, and also preventing yourself from getting it.

Holding back and resisting are necessary aspects of restraint. Restraining involves wanting something, and also preventing yourself from getting it.

Self-Help

I, Self, and Me

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on August 2, 2024

The multitude that each of us is may well be one of nature’s most astounding accomplishments, from which both serenity and turmoil can arise.

The multitude that each of us is may well be one of nature’s most astounding accomplishments, from which both serenity and turmoil can arise.

Wisdom

Life Will Change Your Life

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on June 19, 2024

The journey of life is a constant interplay of change and sameness. We navigate change to preserve sameness.

The journey of life is a constant interplay of change and sameness. We navigate change to preserve sameness.

Sleep

So You Need Your Needs Met, Do You?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on May 8, 2024

There is no doubt that people have needs. Needs matter. An unmet need will demand your attention. Needs definitely need to be met, but no one can do that meeting for you.

There is no doubt that people have needs. Needs matter. An unmet need will demand your attention. Needs definitely need to be met, but no one can do that meeting for you.

Motivation

Goal Setting Is Not the Problem

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on April 6, 2024

The only way to succeed in life is to set a goal. We’re designed to have goals. Even avoiding goals is a goal! We are designed as goal achieving creatures. Goals are us.

The only way to succeed in life is to set a goal. We’re designed to have goals. Even avoiding goals is a goal! We are designed as goal achieving creatures. Goals are us.

Decision-Making

Is Your Life Excessive?

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on March 8, 2024

We all have our own unique views about the life we are living and the life we’d like to be living.

We all have our own unique views about the life we are living and the life we’d like to be living.

Self-Talk

Your Inner Critic Is You

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on February 7, 2024

Your inner critic is you. You berate yourself for a reason. Finding the reason will help you make sense of the harassment you’re firing at yourself.

Your inner critic is you. You berate yourself for a reason. Finding the reason will help you make sense of the harassment you’re firing at yourself.

Relationships

It's All About Changing People

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on January 1, 2024

A Personal Perspective: Most of our social problems seem to arise through efforts to change other people.

A Personal Perspective: Most of our social problems seem to arise through efforts to change other people.

Social Life

Being a Better Person

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on December 7, 2023

A Personal Perspective: Rather than considering what a person deserves, would it be more helpful to consider what is needed to make our place fair and equitable?

A Personal Perspective: Rather than considering what a person deserves, would it be more helpful to consider what is needed to make our place fair and equitable?

Social Life

Our Differences Are Killing Us

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on November 17, 2023

Personal Perspective: Strife in the world today is about the differences in how we wish to organize ourselves and our environment.

Personal Perspective: Strife in the world today is about the differences in how we wish to organize ourselves and our environment.

Self-Help

You Are the Answer

Timothy A Carey Ph.D. on October 2, 2023

No one else can solve your problems. Self-help really is self-help. Even if you haven't found the answer yet, only you know the you you are now and the you you have in mind to be.

No one else can solve your problems. Self-help really is self-help. Even if you haven't found the answer yet, only you know the you you are now and the you you have in mind to be.