Burned Out

23 questions to find personalized baby steps to get you out of burnout’s pit.

Posted Jan 09, 2019

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You may think of the typical burnout as someone who’s been struggling to stay in the middle class. But burnout is an equal opportunity attacker.

A number of my clients are seven-figure successful but felt burned out, empty, wondering whether all the effort was worth it.

At the other end of the socioeconomic continuum, many people are burned out because they've been unable to hold a job that sustains even a modest living, and their personal life is equally dispiriting.

Burnout can lead to undue sex, drugs, and rock 'n roll, and the sense that nothing matters, or at least that nothing matters enough to justify working hard to improve your life.

What’s a burnout to do?

Burnout tends to be all-encompassing, so it must be tackled a bite at a time. Perhaps these questions will help you identify your next bite.


Change boss?

Change place of employment?

Change field?

Improve skill set? (Hard skills or soft, e.g., listening, management of time, stress, anger?)

Improve attitude?

Physical health

Lose weight?

Stop smoking?

Reduce or eliminate substance use?

Increase, decrease, or otherwise change exercise routine?

Better treat a disease you have?

Emotional health

Get counseling for a mental health issue?

Try or change medication for a mental health issue?

Try self-help approaches: journaling, exercise, thought replacement, co-coaching with a friend or support group?


Find a new romantic relationship?

Improve an existing romantic relationship, maybe with clearer communication, better listening, and/or limit-setting, perhaps one issue at a time? By yourselves? With a counselor? With a friend or relative?

End an existing romantic relationship?

Find a new platonic friend?

Improve an existing platonic relationship?

End a platonic relationship?

Improve your relationship with your child or parent, for example, collaborative, limit-setting conversations with your child around drugs, sex, poor school performance, ill-advised friends, etc?

Recreational/creative life

Do you need to do more of one of your current recreational or creative activities?

Do you need to find a new recreational or creative activity or resurrect one you've done previously?

A sense of purpose

Do you spend sufficient time and perhaps money on what you most believe in, for example, your kids, a cause, your career?

Do you want to increase or decrease your spending or material things, products and/or services?

The takeaway

Does one or more of the questions above suggest how you might start to lift yourself from burnout’s pit?

I read this aloud on YouTube.