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Guidance for the families of gray divorce.
Carol R. Hughes, Ph.D., LMFT, and Bruce R. Fredenburg, M.S., LMFT
"I'm a parent going through a gray divorce. I'm surprised my adult children are behaving the way they are. What's wrong with them?"
Why can't my parents understand how their gray divorce affects me and our family relationships?
Steps for creating a win-win mindset with your adult children's other parent.
"My parents' gray divorce upended my world. I feel alone and invisible."
Are you stuck in the pain and sadness from the losses and "nevers" of gray divorce?
Are you, your family members, and your friends surprised by how overwhelmed with sadness and grief you feel from the losses your gray divorce brought?
When I found out about my parents' gray divorce, I felt like the rock that had been my foundation for decades crumbled. Sadness and grief overwhelmed me.
What pitfalls can parents who are divorcing later in life easily miss?
What unexpected, seismic shifts in relationships with adult children can "gray divorce" create?
Parent-child relationships are important to parents and children throughout their lifespans. Late-in-life divorce can shatter those bonds and shake adult children's identities.
"Gray divorce" is changing families and societies worldwide.
Part 2: These tips can help you support your adult children.
Are you over age 50 and contemplating divorcing? These tips can help you support your adult children.
Do you feel stressed and in the middle of your parents' later-life divorce? These tips can help you cope.
Carol R. Hughes, Ph.D., LMFT, and Bruce R. Fredenburg, M.S., LMFT, are psychotherapists and co-authors of Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce.