10 Simple Ways to Improve Your Mood When You're Feeling Down
There are a number of simple things that anyone can try.
Posted Jan 16, 2017
[Article revised on 26 April 2020.]
There are a number of simple things that anyone can do to lift their mood.
You may already be doing some of these things, and you certainly don’t need to be doing them all. Just try the ones that you feel most comfortable with, or that are easiest for you.
As your mood begins to lift—and sooner or later it definitely will—you can make more and bigger changes to your routine. And if you can hold on to those habits once your mood has lifted, you may well feel better than you ever have before.
1. Spend more time with sympathetic friends and relatives.
Talking to others about our feelings helps us to process them, put them into perspective, and obtain advice and support. Don’t be afraid to tell people that you need their time, or feel guilty for taking it. If you are uncomfortable talking to friends and relatives, or are unable to do so, you can phone a helpline instead. Even if you don’t want to talk about your feelings, spending time with sympathetic others, for example, playing sports or cooking a meal, should help to lift your mood.
2. Don’t bite off more than you can chew.
Try to reduce your levels of stress. Simplify your life, even if it means doing less or doing only one thing at a time. Break down large tasks into smaller ones and set realistic deadlines for completing them. Don’t blame yourself for "doing nothing", you are merely giving yourself the time and space that you need to get better. Just think of it as taking a step back to jump further.
3. Do more of the things you normally enjoy, even if they no longer seem appealing.
Read your favourite childhood book, go shopping or to the cinema, prepare a meal, spend time with an old friend—anything that gets you out and takes your mind off negative thoughts is likely to make things better.
4. Get out of the house, even if only to buy milk or walk in the park.
Bright daylight, fresh air, and the hustle bustle of everyday life can all be helpful, as can the sights, sounds, and smells of nature. If you can, try to take some mild exercise such as 20 minutes of brisk walking, ideally, through some green space.
5. Fight off negative thoughts.
Make a list of all the positive things about yourself and your situation (you may need help with this), keep it in your bag or wallet, and read it to yourself every few hours. However bad you may be feeling, remember that you have not always felt this way, and that you will not always feel this way.
6. Be realistic about your progress.
Improvements in mood are likely to be gradual rather than sudden, and you may even get worse before you start to get better. Once you are on the right track, there are going to be bad days as well as good ones. Bad days that come after one or several good days may seem all the worse for it. Don’t blame yourself for the bad days, and don’t despair.
7. Avoid making or acting upon important decisions.
Now is not the time to quit your job, separate from your partner, or spend large sums of money. While in the throes of depression, thinking errors are likely to impair your judgement. Check your reasoning with others and consider their advice, especially if you don’t agree with it!
8. Get as much sleep as you can.
A single night’s sleep, or even a nice nap, can make a world of difference to the way you feel.
9. Make an appointment with a health professional.
Enlist the advice and support of your family doctor or a psychiatrist. Maybe ask for counselling and take things from there.
10. Decide whom to call in an emergency should you feel overwhelmed by negative or suicidal thoughts.
This may be a relative or friend, your doctor, or a helpline. Think of a backup in case your first choice is unreachable. Save their contact numbers into your phone so that they are always at hand.
Neel Burton is author of Growing from Depression and other books.