Secrets to a Strong, Successful Relationship
Gain better understanding and insight into your relationship.
Posted November 14, 2012
It’s essential to truly understand what it means for partners to make a commitment to each other:
- Commitment: A statement of my intention to remain constant in belief and action to a single ideal without entertaining other options regardless of appearances, difficulties or conflicts which will arise in the pursuit of that ideal.
Communication is key to a successful relationship:
- Recognize when your partner needs closeness or distance, respect each other’s thoughts and feelings, notice your partner’s need for sexual contact and expression, and accept your partner “as is”
- Make your partner feel valued and important, support each other’s dreams and goals, and Reassure each other of your love and commitment
Mature love vs. Immature love
A relationship requires mature and healthy love. It is important to recognize the difference between mature love and immature love.
- Mature/Healthy Love: Waits, respects, gives the benefit of the doubt, listens, trusts, cares, accepts, takes pleasure in the successes and joys of the other, accepts love without question of motive or condition, forgives, lets go when necessary, says goodbye…but not perfectly and not always.
- Immature Love: Needs, takes, demands, attempts to change the other, expects, has agendas, rejects sincere offering of love, keeps score, is impatient and intolerant of mistakes, talks but does not hear, substitutes sex for love, is jealous and afraid, quits, hurts …but not always and rarely on purpose.
Understand Past Mistakes
Strengthening a current relationship or getting into a new one requires learning from past mistakes and applying those lessons to present or future relationships. Study your patterns and get a “do-over." Be aware of:
- Relationship laziness, parenting our partners, circular communication without resolution, focusing on children and ignoring relationship, lacking commitment and having the door always open, and blaming.
With a better understanding and insight into the way you interact and communicate with your significant other, you can create a strong, successful relationship.