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5 Good Reasons to Get Married, and 5 Reasons Not To

... and how to accept and respect both choices.

Key points

  • In the past, marriage was seen as a necessity for establishing a family and ensuring financial security.
  • While marriage can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience for many people, it is not right for everyone.
  • Individuals should consider their own needs and circumstances before deciding marriage is right for them.

The institution of marriage has undergone significant changes over time. In the past, marriage was often seen as a necessity for establishing a family and ensuring the financial security of both the husband and the wife. In many cultures, marriage was also a way for individuals to gain social status and fulfill religious or cultural obligations.

However, in recent years, there has been a decline in marriage rates in many parts of the world. This decline has been attributed to a variety of factors, including changes in social attitudes, increased access to education and opportunities for women, and economic factors. For example, never-married single people ages 25 to 34 in the United States now outnumber the married crowd by 46 to 45 percent, a stark reversal from just a decade ago, when couples held a 20-point edge in the age group, according to an analysis of new census data by the Population Reference Bureau.

As a result of these changes, the institution of marriage has evolved and become less prevalent in many societies. While marriage is still an important part of many cultures and religions, it is no longer seen as the only or the best way for individuals to form long-term, committed relationships. In many cases, couples choose to cohabitate or to have children without getting married, and the traditional roles and expectations associated with marriage have shifted.

Overall, the institution of marriage has undergone significant changes over time, with a rise in its importance in the past and a decline in recent years. These changes reflect the evolving social and economic landscape, as well as changing attitudes and values.

Why Marry?

There are many different reasons why people choose to marry. Some common reasons include the following:

  1. Love: For many people, the primary reason for marrying is love. They have fallen in love with someone and want to spend the rest of their lives with that person.
  2. Companionship and security: Marriage can provide a sense of companionship and support. When two people marry, they become a team and can support each other through life's ups and downs. Thus, marriage can provide a sense of security, both emotional and financial. It can offer stability and a sense of belonging.
  3. Children: Many people choose to marry because they want to have children and raise a family. Marriage can provide a stable environment for raising children.
  4. Social norms: In many cultures, marriage is seen as a societal norm and a way to establish oneself as an adult. Some people may marry for this reason, even if they are not in love with their partner.
  5. Religion: For some people, marriage is an important religious rite and a way to fulfill their spiritual beliefs.

Why Not Marry?

While marriage can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience for many people, it is not right for everyone. There are several reasons why marriage might not be a good idea for some individuals:

  1. Personal freedom: Marriage requires a significant commitment of time, energy, and resources. It can also involve giving up some personal freedom and autonomy. For some people, the sacrifices required by marriage may outweigh the benefits.
  2. Compatibility: For a marriage to be successful, it is important for the two individuals to be compatible. If two people have very different values, goals, or interests, it can be difficult for them to build a strong and lasting relationship.
  3. Relationship problems: Every relationship has its challenges, and marriage is no exception. If a couple is already having problems in their relationship, such as communication issues or trust issues, getting married may not solve those problems and could even make them worse.
  4. Societal expectations: In some cases, individuals may feel pressure to get married from their family, friends, or society at large. If they are not ready for marriage or do not want to get married, this pressure can be stressful and difficult to deal with.
  5. Financial considerations: Marriage can be expensive, especially if a couple decides to have a big wedding or move into a new home together. For some individuals, the cost of marriage may not be worth it, especially if they are happy with their current financial situation.

It is important for individuals to carefully consider their own needs, desires, and circumstances before deciding whether marriage is the right choice for them. It is important for us to accept all choices we and others make.

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