"What A Crazy Beautiful Thing Life Is": A Wise Young Mother

Today is special in its non-specialness

Posted Mar 06, 2018

Jude and Mommy/Emily Seaburn
Source: Jude and Mommy/Emily Seaburn

I remember being in the delivery room when our daughter Emily was born. I was eager to hold her in my arms, to feel this little person and look into her eyes. Once she was cleaned and swaddled, I had my chance. Her tiny face was calm and her gaze was steady. She looked to me as if she knew where she had come from, that she knew something I had forgotten, some wisdom that was born with her, wisdom that may fade with age. I looked down at her brand-newness and slowly stuck the tip of my tongue out and she replied by sticking hers out, as well. And so a bond was created that has stayed.

On December 26, 2017 Emily and her husband Matt had their first child, Jude David, who is a remarkable, joyous little boy already. He is the first boy born on my small branch of our family tree since, well, I was born. A gift! Just as amazing as this new life was learning that Emily has not lost the wisdom I saw in her eyes the day she was born. Recently she wrote this:

Today has not been special. It’s been just Jude and I since 6 am, when Matt left for work; he won’t be home again until about midnight. Both the little one and I are under the weather. The weather outside is atrocious, so we’ve been cooped up all day. It’s been napping, nursing, playing, smiling, crying and back to napping, playing on repeat. Jude is now asleep on my chest and I can’t help but notice that he is almost twice his birth weight, how his little body feels so different in my arms already, and how unique time is when you have a baby. How much more quickly it seems to go. Years from now, he won’t have any memory of these early days together, but I will never forget them. They will become some of the happiest times in my life. Because even on the most ordinary, non-special, mundane day, I can’t help but want to stop time. To stay just us a little bit longer. To commit every inch of his little face to memory. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been on this non-special, extremely average day. What a crazy beautiful thing life is. 'We are born of love; love is our mother.’ (Rumi)”

            Amen.

David B. Seaburn is the proud grandfather of three beautiful grandchildren. He is also a novelist. His most recent being Parrot Talk. Seaburn is a retired marriage and family therapist, psychologist and minister.