From Victim to Victor

Narcissism

How Emotional Maturity Is Affected by Narcissistic Parenting

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on January 10, 2025

While adults who grew up with narcissistic parents can come across mature and in control, there are some developmental elements missing, according to Erikson's developmental model.

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What Are the Differences Between a Bully and a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on October 24, 2024

There are at least 5 key differences between bullies and narcissists, including the fact that the former can change while the latter can't.

People-Pleasing

A Simple Protocol to Stop People-Pleasing Behaviour

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on August 13, 2024

If you think it is time to stop people pleasing, this post is a must-read. It will change your approach to 'saying yes' and 'saying no'.

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Can a Dog, Cat and an Octopus Protect Me From Narcissists?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on August 6, 2021

Does a narcissist get to you with their unexpected behavior? A few visuals can keep you safe and sane.

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How to Negotiate with a Narcissist

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on July 20, 2021

Preparing for negotiations with a narcissist may lead to better outcomes.

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Are You Being Played to Stay in a Narcissistic Relationship?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on June 5, 2021

Why do people stay in emotionally abusive relationships? Hope is often what keeps them there.

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Why Is It So Hard to End a Relationship With a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on May 4, 2021

Are you in an unhealthy abusive relationship? This might be why you are staying.

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What Are Typical Behaviours of Narcissistic Abuse Survivors?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on March 25, 2021

Narcissistic abuse leaves a mark in some typical behaviours. Here are five you might recognise.

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How My Narcissistic Mother Affected My University Years

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on February 15, 2021

I thought I left my narcissistic mother behind when I became a college student. However, she was still very much part of my daily life and it took me years to be free of her.

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What Are the Main Values of a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on January 17, 2021

Values inform behaviour. In order to understand someone's behaviour you have to know their values. Narcissists have different values than most other people.

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Does It Sound Weird That Narcissistic Abuse Is Not Personal?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on January 5, 2021

It is tough to be on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse. Does it make it better to know that it is not personal? That you are no more tthan an instrument to get a need met?

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How I Controlled Communication With My Narcissistic Mother

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on December 17, 2020

Control is the name of the narcissist's game. Take control back in how you communicate by making five simple decisions.

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Is My Mother a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on December 2, 2020

There are 7 telltale signs that she might be.

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Is This How Narcissists Think?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on November 23, 2020

To understand the thinking pattern of a narcissist, you only have to remember 5 simple sentences.

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Is My Boss a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on November 2, 2020

Narcissistic bosses will undermine your confidence, confuse you, and take credit for your work. Here's how to recognize them, deal with them, and survive.

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Is My Partner a Narcissist?

Mariette Jansen Ph.D. on October 26, 2020

Is your partner a narcissist? Here are the signs that victims of narcissistic abuse show.