Creating the Life You Want Step 2: Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs

Allowing light to shine on and illuminate our path

Posted Oct 14, 2011

Aloha! This summer I've been traveling quite a bit. First in Australia and then I taught a Huna intensive in Kona. It's nice to be back and I can't wait to get back to steps on how to let go of limiting beliefs.

Last time we were talking about the Hawaiian concept of the unihipili, the unconscious that directs learning and healing. Indigenous Hawaiians believed that when people encountered thoughts or emotions they could not deal with at the time, the unihipili stored them on the body in the form of "black bags."

In Huna we teach that holding on to negative emotions past the point where they are ready for a natural release is unhealthy for the mind, body and spirit. The prime directive of the unihipili is to let go of negative thoughts and emotions when the time is right. This is so different from the Western way of dealing with negative emotions, which is often to push those feelings down below the surface, which can upset the mind-body balance.

Our understanding of the connection between mind and body health is growing constantly. The discipline in psychology called PNI (psychoneuroimmunology) focuses on studying how specific stressors affect specific areas of the body. Psychological studies have shown that certain emotions have more impact on the heart, for example. Many articles published in the Journal of the American Medical Association relate anger to heart-related issues.

What is less well understood is the idea that our black bags contain not only negative emotions but also the self-imposed limitations of negativity and doubt. Doubts are limiting decisions and/or limiting beliefs about yourself and your abilities. Self-doubt manifests in words like "I can't," "I'm not good enough," or "I'm not smart enough."

When you have negative emotions or limiting decisions stored up in black bags, this can prevent you from seeing where you need to go or what you need to do. They cloud your judgment and sometimes make you take a misstep. Many of us feel like we are stumbling around "in the dark" at some point or other. This is the effect of maintaining those black bags beyond their usefulness.

Releasing negative emotions and limiting beliefs is our focus when we do ho‘oku‘u, or higher self therapy. If you want to fill your emotional body with love so that you attract love, you need to noa (cleanse) the negative emotions first.

When you consciously decide that you are ready to release what should be released, the conscious mind invites the higher self in with the help of the awaiku (good spirits). All the conscious mind has to do is relax and let it happen, and be willing to let go. The higher self takes care of the rest. When we release limiting beliefs, we allow light to shine on and illuminate our path. Let me know what you will shine your light on when you release your limiting beliefs.

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Matthew B. James, MA, Ph.D., is President of Kona University and its training and seminar division The Empowerment Partnership, where he serves as a master trainer of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), a practical behavioral technology for helping people achieve their desired results in life. His new book, The Foundation of Huna: Ancient Wisdom for Modern Times, details forgiveness and meditation techniques used in Hawaii for hundreds of years. He carries on the lineage of one of the last practicing kahuna of mental health and wellbeing. To reach Dr. James, please e-mail him at