Perhaps the greatest secret to a love-filled life is to cherish the relationships we already have--including relationships with those who have passed. Here is a simple yet profoundly healing exercise for anyone who has lost a loved one.
If you’re single and you’re willing to treat your dating life as a journey of growth, then you’re very lucky. Why? Because the way we search for love usually determines the kind of love we find. By approaching your dating life with deeper awareness, you have the power to change your romantic future in powerful, positive ways.
The path to love is never simple. When we decide to pursue our longing for love, we’re led down a path with challenges we might never have dreamed of. For me, the decision to become a father—as a forty-something, single gay man---is what changed everything. In this post, I’d like to offer a potent exercise for following your own call to love—and share my personal story.
This simple technique is designed to deepen all of your intimate relationships, including your relationship with yourself. Each of its three steps leads to a deeper state of authenticity, a gentle, skillful “overthrow” of the inner and outer voices which hold us back from deeper love.
I recently had a dialogue with Sophia Dembling, author of Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After. Both of us had books come out at about the same time concerning the search for love. Her insights on the distinction between glow and sparkle hold one of the greatest keys to finding and keeping healthy love.
In deciding your most important goals for 2015, don’t forget the factor that's most likely to give you joy, contentment, and a deep sense of personal meaning and mission. We all know what that is: It's loving relationships. I'm referring to all forms of love, not just romantic love. Here is the simplest and best way to create a more love-filled year ahead.
I am so pleased to share my interview with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt on the conscious search for love. Simply interviewing this extraordinary couple was an inspiring experience. There are many gems of insight here, and I encourage every thoughtful person who is serious about finding love to take the time to read this.
Young or old, single or coupled, each of us is faced with the great challenge of learning to love. Our core gifts lie at the heart of our intimacy journey, and when we identify them, we hold an invaluable key to understanding ourselves and all our relationships. Answering these two simple questions will enable you to discover your own core intimacy gifts.
Lady Valor, airing this Thursday, is an inspiring CNN documentary about transgender activist Kristin Beck. As a decorated Navy Seal, Christopher Beck crossed enemy lines to fight for freedom. As Kristin, she crosses equally scary enemy lines; the gender taboos that hold all of us back from full self-expression and deeper intimacy.
Most advice on seeking love focuses on the skills of seeking, not the skills of loving. Apps, events and websites offer endless opportunities to meet, but until we learn how to choose healthy intimacy and nurture its tender new shoots, it’s unlikely we’ll find the love we seek. We can transform our search for intimacy by approaching it in a new way.