Finding Family

Relationships

Misattributed Parentage: Making Room for the 'Other'

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on March 5, 2021

Feeling like the outsider in your family? There can be room for everyone.

Relationships

Don't Think You Can Manage Problematic Family Relationships?

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on November 8, 2020

Do you feel misunderstood or different from family? These two adjustments can help change those feelings.

Sex

The History of Misattributed Parentage

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on October 3, 2020

Well before science revealed secret affairs, sexual assault, or the opportunity for donor conceptions, humanity was engaged in a struggle between the biological and cultural drives.

Family Dynamics

Family Ties, and Secrets

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on August 29, 2020

Thanks to the science behind DNA tests, secrets are tumbling out with a never-before seen ferocity for those who discovered misattributed parentage, and the fallout affects family.

Embarrassment

"You Should Be Ashamed!"

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on July 26, 2020

The reason families use shame when a DNA discoverer reveals long held secrets is as deep as the shame they create.

Coronavirus Disease 2019

The Gift of Time

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on March 17, 2020

Lessons I'm learning about the chaos of coronavirus from my DNA discovery.

Grief

How to Respond When DNA Tests Reveal Unexpected Results

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on February 16, 2020

Have you been told nothing has changed when it feels everything has changed? There's a reason people dismiss uncomfortable feelings.

Child Development

How to Tell Your Kids about DNA Discoveries

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on November 26, 2019

It's hard enough to deal with discovering shocking DNA results. But telling kids about yours isn't as hard as you think.

Grief

Bringing Your DNA Discovery to Therapy

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on October 11, 2019

Frustrated with therapists not understanding how to help you with a DNA discovery? A few helpful hints to get the most out of therapy for Non-Paternal Events.

Trauma

Family Secrets and Trauma

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on September 20, 2019

Discovering you have a different parent than you were raised to believe is traumatizing—to you and to your family at large. There is help out there.

Narcissism

Motherly Narcissism

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on July 17, 2019

Has mom manipulated you to keep the family secret? A few tips to handle a narcissist will go a long way.

Identity

Who Am I Now?

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on June 10, 2019

Identity is an ambiguous and very essential part of our well-being. Your family has a lot to do with it.

Genetics

Finding Meaning and Acceptance in Crisis

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on April 3, 2019

Thoughts on managing family reactions to surprise DNA revelations.

Identity

Finding Identity

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT on February 12, 2019

Identity is a construct that takes years to define. Shocking DNA results took the identity I thought I had and threw it out the window, leaving a void to be filled.