Finding Family

A Modern Guide to Family with Parental Identity Discovery and Non-Paternal Events

Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT

Misattributed Parentage: Making Room for the 'Other'

Feeling like the outsider in your family? There can be room for everyone.

Don't Think You Can Manage Problematic Family Relationships?

Do you feel misunderstood or different from family? These two adjustments can help change those feelings.

The History of Misattributed Parentage

Well before science revealed secret affairs, sexual assault, or the opportunity for donor conceptions, humanity was engaged in a struggle between the biological and cultural drives.

Family Ties, and Secrets

Thanks to the science behind DNA tests, secrets are tumbling out with a never-before seen ferocity for those who discovered misattributed parentage, and the fallout affects family.

"You Should Be Ashamed!"

The reason families use shame when a DNA discoverer reveals long held secrets is as deep as the shame they create.

The Gift of Time

Lessons I'm learning about the chaos of coronavirus from my DNA discovery.

How to Respond When DNA Tests Reveal Unexpected Results

Have you been told nothing has changed when it feels everything has changed? There's a reason people dismiss uncomfortable feelings.

How to Tell Your Kids about DNA Discoveries

It's hard enough to deal with discovering shocking DNA results. But telling kids about yours isn't as hard as you think.

Bringing Your DNA Discovery to Therapy

Frustrated with therapists not understanding how to help you with a DNA discovery? A few helpful hints to get the most out of therapy for Non-Paternal Events.

Family Secrets and Trauma

Discovering you have a different parent than you were raised to believe is traumatizing—to you and to your family at large. There is help out there.

Motherly Narcissism

Has mom manipulated you to keep the family secret? A few tips to handle a narcissist will go a long way.

Who Am I Now?

Identity is an ambiguous and very essential part of our well-being. Your family has a lot to do with it.

Finding Meaning and Acceptance in Crisis

Thoughts on managing family reactions to surprise DNA revelations.

Finding Identity

Identity is a construct that takes years to define. Shocking DNA results took the identity I thought I had and threw it out the window, leaving a void to be filled.

What Do You Do When You Learn You're Not Who You Thought?

A fictional story of a very real phenomenon. Finding out you're not the child of the parent you thought and searching for the biological family.

In Reunion: Navigating New Family Connections

Upset and confused about making connections with biological family? A few practical tips can help you handle the acceptance or rejection.

When Family Doesn't Act As Such

Have you been shunned by family after shocking DNA results? A few tips about managing family relationships when the lie has been revealed

Intuition Isn't Crazy

An unusual feeling of not fitting into the family? It may be the universe and your biology trying to tell you something.

The New Identity Crisis

Confused about who you are after shocking DNA revelations? Your identity is one of the big changes that come with a change in biological family.

The Grief Effect

Cycling through anger, shock and sadness is only the beginning.

The Stranger Within

Ever feel like a stranger in your own family? Shocking DNA revelations start with the sense that you are invisible, can't do anything right, or don't belong.