We all harbor secrets. Some are big and bad; some are small and trivial. Researchers have parsed which truths to tell and which not to.
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Turn in the direction of the skid.
Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D.
A Personal Perspective: We’re not who we thought we were.
Like anything else, masculinity is not well-suited to every situation—but it is a good thing for both men and women.
If you can solve a problem, then solve it. But most depressive, anxiety, and trauma disorders need psychotherapy.
To change systemic ageism in healthcare, we must root it out in healthcare training programs.
Memories of early childhood are usefully considered myths or folk tales.
If someone wants to play the role of psychological expert, their comma usage may be undermining their performance.
Most people say the boss is the worst thing about their job, and most of them describe the boss as imperious, smug, and blaming.
Psychotic countertransference is the therapist’s firm belief that they are wise and beneficent because they are acting in the role of therapist.
Nearly any act can be sick or well, depending on its function.
It’s hard not to take things personally when you are still creating the person who is affected by things.
Hate cannot stand up to analogized, contextualized empathy.
Faculty members can’t promote contextual or scientific thinking if faculty colleagues or the larger culture won’t stand up for instruction.
Shouldn’t your therapist keep getting better at therapy?
At the heart of the fantasy of meeting Mr. or Ms. Right is the fantasy that you yourself are just right for someone.
The most insidious and pervasive stigmas are those that disqualify us in the eyes of others from playing the role of human being.
Stark emotions in primary colors produce comic-book narratives about what is going on.
If an athlete seeks coaching or strength training, and there’s no internal problem such as injury, go ahead with coaching or strength training, but don’t call it physical therapy.
When therapists insist on being the good guy, it blinds them to their mistakes.
The blooming idiots who will tell me I am not entitled to have an opinion about Ulysses are like those that tell Bloom he’s not Irish.
The supposedly-sympathetic, condoling framing of suffering as a tragedy pushes people to embrace hopelessness, victimhood, and defeatism.
Tantalizing others makes them savage.
Enter patterns to change them; don’t just talk them to death.
A good therapist sews your shadow back on.
Jews have become white people to the “woke,” while still suffering hate crimes at higher rates than gays, Blacks, and Muslims.
A different Prince once said, “Holding someone is truly believing there's joy in repetition."
As a global pandemic impinges on holiday traditions, we can turn to history for inspiration.
The Internet allows you to fit in without having to adapt, by finding a social space where you already fit in.
The cure for wretchedness isn’t luxury; it’s ordinary human connection, apart from wealth or poverty.
In therapy, patients and therapists often confuse indulgence with being treated as a “You” and frustration with being treated as an “It.”
Take steps to promote the type of marriage you want to be in rather than inadvertently implementing the sort of marriage you don’t want to be in.
Michael Karson, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Denver.
Musings (amusing musings, I hope) on psychotherapy, personality, and life from a practitioner steeped in experience, resistant to rules, and suspicious of categories.