There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Learning to Love Together
Avrum Weiss, Ph.D.
What's harmful to one person in a relationship is always harmful to both.
It might explain some of the conflict in your relationship.
The new men's movement is the latest example in a long history of men's fears of women.
Why do married men tend to be happier, healthier, and wealthier than single men?
If it's not good for either one of us how can it be good for us?
A personal perspective: The alternative is to become someone we may not want to be.
“I love you” really means, “I love the me I am when I’m with you.”
Be honest and speak from your own experience.
With so many temptations around, how do you accomplish what you need to get done? In some cases, you may need to stop trying so hard.
Narcissism is an often-adaptive character trait found in many people—not just a diagnosis.
We're all suffering from the isolation of COVID more than we realize.
If you ask a man if he is afraid of being controlled by his female partner, he may adamantly deny it. But on a deeper level, he fears abandonment.
Many men are scared that there is something wrong with them regarding emotions.
L'Chaim! Live your life to the fullest.
Consider getting the man on your list something that will stretch his capacity to be playful or experience pleasure.
Remarks by Senator Josh Hawley are not supported by science.
A recent sketch on Saturday Night Live highlights the problem of male isolation.
A Personal Perspective: How these fears affect relationships.
A Personal Perspective: Values I learned from reflecting on my grandparent's marriage.
The value of mentoring relationships.
How men's fears of emotions may keep them from establishing intimacy.
Getting through COVID with everyday connections.
How to talk responsibly to someone you love.
Power struggles between men and women about anxiety.
Feelings are never right or wrong.
Self-care for a marathon pandemic.
Social connection during corona could help keep you well.
Coping with Covid
In many ways, men fear women in intimate relationships. See if you recognize yourself and your partner in any of these scenarios.
Men often go to the familiar experience of anger to hide what they are really feeling, which is fear.
Avrum Weiss, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and speaker who writes about the internal lives of men and their intimate relationships.