Why are women's looks so often a topic of fascination — and criticism — even among women themselves? We seem so ready to judge the choices our fellow sisters make, from how we handle our relationships, children and careers, to how we deal with our aging appearance.
Scott and Mary have been married for seven years. Given these tough economic times, they feel fortunate to be employed, have two great kids, a home and still have a little extra money, and energy, for some fun with each other.
One thing that continues to surprise me is how shocked people (especially other women) seem when I admit my age. With such frequent public displays of midlife success — think Streep at 62 on the cover of Vogue or Madonna at 53 performing during this year's Super Bowl — you would think that a woman's age need no longer be kept secret.
Many of us see President Obama's graying hair and think, "it must be all the stress he's under." We view Hillary Clinton's furrowed brow and assume, "it's the weight of the world that is adding years to her face."
Meryl Streep, at age 62, not only made it to the February cover of Vogue magazine, but soon after was celebrated at the Academy Awards for her starring role in the "Iron Lady." It is a wonderful thing seeing her admired for her growing talent, beauty and grace. And she was not alone this year at the Oscars. Did anyone notice the other dozen or so middle aged nominees?
Are you having a good hair day? Seems like a simple, even silly, question coming from a psychologist whose work is about getting underneath the surface. Having recently been asked to consult for a company about their new line of hair care products, I began thinking about the psychology behind "a good hair day."
I started using the term "beauty self-esteem" after a journalist asked me to describe the psychological difference between attractiveness and beauty. You, too, might find this term useful in thinking about how you feel about your appearance. Attractiveness is more complicated than meets the eye.
Despite what the advertisers and surgeons may tell us, no one has figured out how to stop the clock. And as our clocks tick longer and longer—nowadays, 80 or more years—we all face physical and emotional challenges.