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Conquer your insecurities, interrupt your anxiety, and finally calm down.
Kathleen Smith Ph.D.
Are you critical of other people's relationships? Putting the focus back on yourself can calm you down.
Do you withdraw from others when you feel stressed? There might be a better way to manage anxiety.
Are you tired of talking about the same superficial topics with friends? Being more honest about your life can strengthen your connections.
How do you automatically respond to anxiety? Interrupting this "autopilot" can help you live a calmer life.
Do you feel anxious about politics or the climate? Accessing your best thinking can help lower anxiety.
Do you rely on constant reassurance or praise from others? A few changes can help you learn to trust your own thinking.
Do you want to build stronger one-to-one relationships? It's time to take off your emotional training wheels.
Does trying to guess what people think about you make you anxious? Refocusing on your own mind can help calm you down.
Do you withhold information from your family to avoid disagreement? Sharing more about yourself can help you learn to be less reactive.
Are your anxious reactions making your problems even worse? Switching to a more thoughtful focus can make a big difference.
Do you feel anxious around family at Thanksgiving? Observing your family with curiosity can help you calm down and build stronger relationships.
Do you get annoyed with friends or family who never initiate contact? Keeping score in relationship can distract you from working on your own maturity.
Are you constantly venting to friends about your challenging relationships? Observing "triangles" in your day-to-day life can help you learn to manage anxiety more effectively.
Do you try to overfunction for others when you feel anxious? Paying attention to this behavior can help you practice manage your own anxiety instead of managing others.
Kathleen Smith, Ph.D., LPC is a therapist and author of the book, Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down.