There are ways to temper your toughest critic and take constructive control of your feelings.
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Breaking out of mental loops
Shoba Sreenivasan, Ph.D., and Linda E. Weinberger, Ph.D.
Giving is valued behavior. But giving to get; e.g., by a holier-than thou approach, self-effacement, or for quid pro quo can be maladaptive and exploitative rather than altruistic.
Healthy pride reinforces self-esteem and differs from an inflated sense of self. It is not authentic pride, but rather hubristic pride that is one of the “Seven Deadly Sins.”
Whether choosing to retire or being forced to, how do people make the adjustment considering all the financial, health, social, and psychological factors?
Leisure activities not only benefit physical needs, but also contribute to a meaningful life.
We can reduce discontentment and enhance deeper living through appreciating the beauty and poetry of ordinary activities.
Daydreaming is a normal mental activity that can lead to positive effects. However, it can also reinforce negative feelings and thoughts and contribute to poor functioning.
Later life romances can prompt one to look inward and ask, "How can I grow with this person?" Later life romance may well awaken your best possible self.
Time spent alone varies across one’s life situation and lifestyle. Periods of solitude may be intrapersonally healthy and helpful in improving relationships with others.
Regret, if used properly, can enhance development toward becoming the type of person you hope to be as well as having the kind of life you want.
Post-traumatic growth rather than post-traumatic bitterness is not an easy feat. When one can put the ordeal in context and see meaning in the misery, then growth can flourish.
Changes in important areas of people’s lives test their inner resources and require adaptation if they are to successfully overcome stress and other negative effects.
Older aged people possess information that if disclosed to others can enhance lives, theirs and ours. By spending time with them—listening and talking—we both become more enriched.
Although fear appeal campaigns are a form of persuasive communication to change attitudes and behavior in a certain way, they can have counterproductive effects.
Many of us wander into worry as if we were on autopilot. We need to get out of our deeply grooved neurologic routes. Doing this can be a challenge, but not an insurmountable one.
Ways to encourage older aged people to dispose of their belongings may be different than that used for younger people.
Social relationships have an impact on our lives. Being rejected or excluded can result in negative psychological reactions and physical pain.
Parental favoritism can result in lasting positive effects for the favored, but also long-term deleterious effects for all the children.
Self explorations into the real you.
Repeatedly doing what you should do or what you like to do can come at a great cost; especially if long-term consequences are not considered.
When bitterness runs through your veins souring every moment and casting a gray patina over every experience, the only way out of that dark hole is an optimistic frame of mind.
Life is to be lived in the present based on what we have learned from our past and our optimism for a better future.
For true psychological comfort, our exterior spaces should satisfy our inner needs.
Reunions can be highly valuable to our well-being by helping us learn more about ourselves and making stronger connections with important others.
Self-worth can vary across time and situations. For some, this instability may impact their psychological health—wherein they should rethink how they evaluate themselves.
Disagreements in important relationships are inevitable. Some key issues in understanding their impact as well as how to express and resolve them.
Engaging in mindless living is not thinking about what you want out of life. If this is you, move your psychological compass NOW in the direction of where you want to be going.
Humility can be so important to a patient’s treatment and recovery that academic physicians believe it should be part of medical students’ education.
It may mean having to cast one’s line deeper into the existential ocean beyond the universal triggers for hurt. It will not be easy, but do no forget self-compassion.
Be aware of the limited time you have to make the most of your life, and then do it.
Why do you attribute self-blame to the occurrence of negative events? Doing so can come with benefits but also risks. Be careful!
Shoba Sreenivasan, Ph.D., and Linda E. Weinberger, Ph.D., are psychology professors at the Keck School of Medicine at USC.