Managing Your Mind
Learn the basics of mindfulness training to help manage your own mind.
Posted Nov 06, 2019
I do well with adversity—that is, if you don’t count how much time I spend thinking about the topic. I don’t let it go very easily (if ever), so I have had to learn to manage my mind so I can stay in balance.
No matter how much any of us may know or understand about life, the psyche can render that knowledge and experience useless as we get caught up in a negative attitude. When that happens, you just can’t feel good about life.
Your current experience goes into this stack of self-resentment that you most likely ruminate on whenever you are magically transported back there by your mind. You may believe that this process is one of figuring out where you went wrong, but instead, it’s a mental prison built by trauma and pain. Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to break out of this mental space and into a place where you can relax your emotional being as if in a king-sized bed all by yourself.
It’s not really possible to monitor your thoughts all the time, and sometimes you may need to focus on other important things, such as driving in traffic and staying alive. But when you catch yourself in that place where your thoughts are telling you that you’ve wasted time, or that you can’t seem to ever be happy for more than a nano-second, because challenges seem to find you constantly, then I invite you to give yourself a moment of awareness.
Just realizing what you are doing, taking note of it, will help you stop, at least for a little while, and perhaps long enough to gather your wits about you. Chances are that if something has been running around in your mind for a long time, an immediate fix is not really possible, but a fix is in process.
To alter your thinking, I suggest exercise, reading, writing, playing music, and cleaning or organizing. These mind-altering techniques will take you to a better emotional place and give you some room to breathe. And isn’t that all you really need? A chance to regain your balance and reconsider your situation? This is a path to thinking about yourself and treating yourself better, which will also lead to treating others better.
Putting yourself in a good headspace is not going to change the world, but it will alter your world, and who knows what you might create? If nothing else, you won’t panic or waste your time worrying, as you direct your mind to dwell on solutions and peace. You really do have that power, and even if the muscle for it is a little tired, you can get it back in shape with a little practice.
This is the basis of mindfulness training, and it has proven very effective in many areas of life, from stress reduction to business success. Most people say similar things about the outcome of mindfulness practice, “It helps keep me balanced and gives me a more positive mindset.” If you need any additional motivation to give it a try, my understanding is that it can also lengthen your life.