10 Ideas to Make a Relationship More Secure

Don't let anyone damage what you have built.

Posted Dec 10, 2017

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I believe in doing whatever it takes to keep a worthwhile relationship healthy and connected. Sometimes that means dealing appropriately with people and situations that can damage what you have built. These tips will help your relationship remain faithful and secure.

1. Make sure the lines of communication are always open.

If your love life is not working, talk. If you have a problem talking about it, you will have a problem doing something about it. So deal with the awkward moments, and discuss what is and isn't working.

2. Make sure your love life is in working order.

This doesn't mean that you need to compromise yourself; it means that you need to find a balance and techniques that work for both of you. If any sexual trauma has occurred, I suggest you seek counseling.

3. Always behave appropriately when in the company of the opposite sex.

Don't flirt or tell sexual jokes. Remember that alcohol reduces your inhibitions and can cause you to act out unconsciously.

4. If you constantly think about cheating, get appropriate help.

Find a licensed therapist who specializes in sexual issues and book some sessions. If you have a treatable problem, it will take more than an hour to fix it.

5. Remember that sex is not dirty.

If your partner wants to try something new, at least consider the idea. If you open up to doing things a little differently, you may find that you enjoy it.

6. Plan time for intimacy.

Have romantic date nights and getaways; both of these activities go a long way to keeping the magic alive. Make sure to make the entire purpose of your outing romance.

7. Don't put yourself in the position of being alone with an ex-lover you are still attracted to.

If someone other than your partner turns your head, it's your job as a loving partner to look the other way.

8. Don't hang out with friends or co-workers who are being unfaithful.

Would you want your kids to hang out with "swingers"? The same holds for adults. If your partner knows your friend is cheating, it's natural for the thought that you might be doing the same thing to cross his or her mind.

9. Say "I love you" often.

Look into the eyes of the person you love, and tell him or her that you are in love and want to keep on being in love. If you feel that you've lost those loving feelings, tell your partner you want them back. If you both put your hearts into it, you'll reconnect on a deeper level than before.

10. Treat your partner like he or she is special.

Making your partner feel special is an essential ingredient to making the life-long love recipe work. When someone makes you feel loved, you are very unlikely to look for it anywhere else.

Preventing infidelity isn't something you have to worry about when you and your partner stay communicative about your desires, your dreams, and your devotion.