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Dream Big But Be Realistic For a Successful Life

Youthful dreams and plans are great but be mindful of the realities of adulthood

Most of us grew up with big plans and dreams. Perhaps we hoped to become a professional athlete, a Nobel Prize winning scientist, a famous novelist, a movie star, or president of the United States. Typically, we dream very big when we are young. Why not? We can!

Yet, over time, most of these childhood fantasies and dreams are ultimately not realized. We get in better touch with our many limitations and other priorities often having to settle for something less than we had hoped for when we were young dreamers. Our culture (and often our families) certainly encourages us to have big ideas, grand plans, and pursue success at the highest level. Sadly, parents sometimes saddle their unfulfilled dreams onto their children who then do the same to their children leaving a long chain of potential frustration and unhappiness. Sometimes we actually achieve these lofty goals and even more. Yet mostly we don’t.

What is success anyway? What do you think might be measures of success for you? Sometimes I find that many of my clinical patients (as well as friends and colleagues) take many of their successes for granted. Many often habituate to their lifestyles and often forget about how good they have it in life. I often joke that if you are alive when you wake up in the morning, can get yourself vertical, and you can have something to eat, a good cup of coffee, and have a job to go to then you have nothing to complain about in life. As the saying goes, “it’s all good.”

If you reflect on what success means in your life you may find that simple things like adequate food, housing, love, meaningful work, and so forth might all combine to make for a successful life and lifestyle. A life with love and meaning is a successful life.

You certainly don’t need to achieve the perhaps unrealistic goals of your youth to be successful. Consider embracing the simple and basic joys of life for a successful life. And don’t take for granted the many simple things that you enjoy that many in the world may only dream about achieving.

So, what do you think?