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You Won’t Believe What Just One Woman Did!

When you advocate for another, you support yourself.

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash
Source: Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

My phone was blowing up. There were so many texts coming in; I almost could not keep up. Last week, a divorced woman joined my Afterglow membership group.

Her beautiful face popped up on the Zoom screen for a weekly support call, and the other women, many of whom have been in the program for a year, lit up. I literally saw their mouths turn up, their faces flush, and their eyes open wide. The women in my group lovingly welcomed the new member, listening to her story, and sharing theirs with the grace and compassion they show up with every week.

The call was spectacular, but what really blew me away was what happened next. Right after the call, the private text portal we use to communicate started pinging. Women were sharing how happy they were to have a new member, and they started stating what they were going to do that day to make their lives easier and more joyful.

The women started to share their wins, their pain, and their mistakes with a flow I had never seen. Women were asking for specific advice, and within five minutes, there were a dozen suggestions. When one woman shared about an argument she had with her ex and her kid, there were immediate responses of “I can totally relate,” “Don’t forget to take care of yourself,” “You are doing a great job, and remember that connected moment you had last week.”

The support was supercharged. This is the power of women coming together to support each other, and this is the power of adding just one woman.

Do you remember those somewhat cheesy posters that said ingredients for a happy home: 1 cup of sunshine, 1 cup of hugs, 1 tsp of love, etc.? Well, the ingredients for women to take good care of themselves is to add another woman to the mix.

When women can support each other, they automatically begin to see how they need to take better care of themselves. Yes, it is easier to give advice than to take it yourself. Trust me, I am a therapist, so I know a little bit about that!

But when women in my groups support each other, they naturally begin to advocate for themselves. Women begin to not only tell others how they should be, but they show it. Do you know about this phenomenon? Have you noticed how after you talk to someone about a problem they are having, you want to take better care of yourself?

Please share your experience with how helping another person pushed you to take action.