The Power Seat: Where You Sit Matters
Find out how you can help or hurt your chances to success based on where you sit
Posted Oct 15, 2012
For the most part, we’ve all been exposed to group setting dynamics starting out with our family. As children we’ve learned to pick up on social cues to make sure we conform to the norms around us. One of these cues is known as the power seat, it’s the seat that we unconsciously designate as the one that has the most authority.
For example, think back to when you were a child having a family dinner. Who would sit at the head of the table? For some of us, mom and dad would either sat at the opposite sides of the dinner table (B5a) and for others, mom would sit right next to dad in the corner position (B1 + B5a).
How about when you think of a wedding you’ve attended, including yours, if that’s applicable. Where did the bride and groom sit? In the middle (B5b). Where the most important guests sat to their immediate right or left. Similar to what you would find in Leonardo Da Vinci’s Last Supper painting, where the most important figure were seated in the middle (B5b).
Whether you are recalling dinner with mom and dad or a wedding, the concept of the power seat is something we’ve known for a long time. What you may not know is that depending where you sit (B5a or B5b) you will initiate a different type of reaction from the people seated around you.
In the case of B5a, when you sit at either end of the table you send a few unspoken messages to the people who sit around you. These messages are:
- You are the leader
- You are in control
- You are there to intimidate
If you sit in the B5b seat, you send a whole other set of messages, such as:
- You are a part of the team
- You are approachable
- You are there to collaborate
These messages may not seem obvious at first but when you sit in either power seat, you will notice a shift in power dynamics from the team around you. Many people have asked me “what’s the best seat to use?” It really depends on the behavior you are looking to drive.
What about square or round tables?
I also get asked if these concepts apply to other table shapes and the answer is yes.
In square tables everyone gets to sit in a Combative and Corner position. Typically most resistance comes from the person seated directly opposite in the 'gunslinger' position and, when four people are seated, everyone has someone sitting opposite.
To claim the power seat in this setting, just move your chair back a little but not too far; otherwise, it will give the impression you don’t want to be there (B6).
In the round table, also known as the King Arthur table, everyone has an equal amount of authority and status.
A round table creates an atmosphere of relaxed informality and is ideal for promoting discussion among people who are of equal status, as each person can claim the same amount of table territory; unfortunately, it does distort the power distribution for the person in charge.
Similar to the square table, the power seat would be created by moving the chair slightly back (B7) or if you don’t need the seats next to you, remove them (highlighted in light grey.)
The next time you sit with your client or at a meeting, be aware of where you sit or who’s sitting where. You will start to notice the power dynamics change based on who’s sitting next to whom.
Bernardo Tirado, PMP @thePMObox
Bernardo covers leadership and technology for PsychologyToday.com. In addition to being an industrial psychologist, he’s certified as a Six Sigma Blackbelt, Project Management Professional, Body Language Expert, and is a Train-the-Trainer in Analytical Interviewing.