The Three C's of Parenting Adult Children
We should move from Choreographer to Coach to Consultant as the kids grow up
Posted October 3, 2013
The right to peace of mind
The right to be imperfect
The right to be free from guilt
The right to say "no"
You can read the whole interview here, and find out more about Parents to the End here. My favorite bit in the Q&A on Mothering21 comes from the interviewer, Mary Quigley, a professor of journalism at NYU (who is, I'm delighted to report, using Samantha's and my book Twentysomething as a textbook in her course for undergraduates called "Covering GenY").
Quigley poses this in her question: "Over the course our children’s lives, you write, we need to make the transition through the “three Cs of parenting," from choreographers to coaches on sidelines to consultants referred to for expert advice. Instead it seems like many Baby Boomers have adopted the role of concierge, and at a luxury hotel!"
I try to think of myself as a consultant to my two daughters, but who knows—every now and then the concierge (aka Jewish mother) in me inevitable peeks out.