How to Talk to Yourself
New research explains why you might be crazy not to talk to yourself.
Posted May 15, 2019
There’s an old joke that you’re not crazy if you talk to yourself. You’re only crazy if you reply.
But some recent research suggests it might actually be the other way around. People who talk at and reply to themselves might actually be less stressed and more productive. You could say you’d be crazy not to talk to yourself.
The evidence comes from a team of researchers led by Jason Moser. The researchers asked participants to engage in some pretty negative experiences (viewing images in one study and recalling negative personal memories in the other) but while one group used first person pronouns (“I”) the other was instructed to use their name and speak in the third-person. The researchers then measured the effects of these experiences on the participants’ brains.
When they tabulated the results, the researchers found that participants in the third person group were consistently better at regulating emotions and exercising self-control. The working theory behind this finding is that talking to yourself in the third-person, as if you were talking to someone else, helps gain some psychological distance between the events and experiences and yourself. This self-distancing blunts the emotional toll the experiences take.
So how should you talk to yourself?
However you’d like. Don’t feel a stigma about talking to yourself at all and especially don’t hesitate to speak to yourself in the third person. Give yourself the reassurance that “You can do this” or coach yourself to pivot emotions. Encourage yourself during hard tasks and take the time to explain new ideas to yourself just after you learned them. There’s even some evidence that Albert Einstein was consistently engaged in quiet conversations with himself, repeating certain sentences to himself again and again.
You’re not crazy if you talk to yourself. You might be crazy not to.