Are You and Your Spouse Acting Like Trump and Clinton?

Subjecting kids to endless fighting does the most harm

Posted Nov 14, 2016

I don’t know about you, but I feel like I just went through the most vicious custody battle of my life. Both candidates duked it out to see who would be granted custody of us, the American people.

If you are a parent and you haven’t liked the election shenanigans for the past two years, yet you’ve been fighting with your mate, you may be no better than Trump or Clinton.

Can you relate to any of the following?

1.You fight aggressively on a regular basis

2.You can’t see eye to eye on anything

3.You are sure your spouse is wrong and you are right

4.You wish he or she would just go away

5.You think you are the better parent   

6.You’re getting divorced and fighting for custody of your kid(s)                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      

It struck me recently that Donald and Hillary are very similar to parents who are fighting about who would be the better parent. Both talked smack about the other to us, both said, “Don’t listen to him (or her),” and both wanted us to take their side. It’s Parental Alienation Syndrome on a much larger scale.

This is what kids feel like when their parents fight—especially when the fights are about them.

And, as with kids, we were (and still are to a large degree) caught in the crossfire, we are dependent on these people to take care of us and, we can’t easily leave.

If you are a parent and you and your spouse are fighting, I want you to see yourself in the faces of our candidates. I want you to know that the damage you are doing to your children is great—much like what just happened to all of us.

It’s no fun being caught in the middle of all the tension and hatred and I believe it’s the stuff that illness is borne out of.  

Please do what you can to get off that track. Separate if you have to (even temporarily). Seek help and do what you can to come into agreement. If you can't do it for yourselves, do it for the sake of your kids.

This election season has been an awful ride. One that I hope will never be repeated. Don't drag out the tension by fighting with your spouse. It's incumbent on us all to try to get along!