Constructive Wallowing

Emotional Validation

Venting Isn’t Therapy

Tina Gilbertson LPC on December 15, 2021

Venting can feel good, but the relief rarely lasts. What a therapist does in response to your emotions makes all the difference when it comes to healing.

Venting can feel good, but the relief rarely lasts. What a therapist does in response to your emotions makes all the difference when it comes to healing.

Grief

Insight Is Not Enough

Tina Gilbertson LPC on November 23, 2021

You’ve been to therapy. You understand your feelings and behavior. Does that mean you’re done?

You’ve been to therapy. You understand your feelings and behavior. Does that mean you’re done?

Empathy

Why Are Some People Such Jerks?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on October 19, 2021

You might think there are as many reasons for bad behavior as there are personalities on the planet. But the root causes of most antisocial behavior may be few.

You might think there are as many reasons for bad behavior as there are personalities on the planet. But the root causes of most antisocial behavior may be few.

Relationships

Should You Keep a Secret?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on September 20, 2021

If you’ve got a secret and you’re not sure whether to keep it, here are some points to consider.

If you’ve got a secret and you’re not sure whether to keep it, here are some points to consider.

Relationships

Are You Living in the Past?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 23, 2021

Standing up for yourself is necessary sometimes. But if you had hurtful experiences in childhood, you may be mistaking today for yesterday.

Standing up for yourself is necessary sometimes. But if you had hurtful experiences in childhood, you may be mistaking today for yesterday.

Relationships

How to Teach Someone a Lesson

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 21, 2021

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to teach someone a lesson, and have them actually learn it? Here’s why they'll never see the error of their ways.

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to teach someone a lesson, and have them actually learn it? Here’s why they'll never see the error of their ways.

Relationships

When One Person Isn't Ready for the Next Step

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 18, 2021

When only one party is ready to take the next step in a relationship, it can be painful for both. But it doesn't have to be the end.

When only one party is ready to take the next step in a relationship, it can be painful for both. But it doesn't have to be the end.

Embarrassment

How to Get Over Social Embarrassment

Tina Gilbertson LPC on May 12, 2021

The party may be over, but the shame is just beginning. If you’re obsessing about an incident, take yourself through these three steps.

The party may be over, but the shame is just beginning. If you’re obsessing about an incident, take yourself through these three steps.

Relationships

Loving Someone Doesn't Have to Mean Staying in a Bad Relationship

Tina Gilbertson LPC on April 26, 2021

If you’re staying in a painful, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship out of love for your partner, you deserve to know what real love feels like.

If you’re staying in a painful, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship out of love for your partner, you deserve to know what real love feels like.

Relationships

Stop Bringing Your Partner Down

Tina Gilbertson LPC on March 24, 2021

Negativity has an impact on relationships, so consider the effect your mood might be having.

Negativity has an impact on relationships, so consider the effect your mood might be having.

Self-Help

How to Make the Best of a Bad Situation

Tina Gilbertson LPC on February 16, 2021

5 steps to a better mindset and a better outcome.

5 steps to a better mindset and a better outcome.

Parenting

Never Call a Child Selfish

Tina Gilbertson LPC on January 19, 2021

Did your parents ever call you selfish when you were a child? Here’s why that probably did some damage, and what one can do to teach unselfish behavior to children.

Did your parents ever call you selfish when you were a child? Here’s why that probably did some damage, and what one can do to teach unselfish behavior to children.

Relationships

When Your Partner Won’t Change

Tina Gilbertson LPC on December 23, 2020

Is it that your partner can’t change or that he won’t? Does it matter?

Is it that your partner can’t change or that he won’t? Does it matter?

Relationships

How to Be Yourself in a Relationship

Tina Gilbertson LPC on November 28, 2020

If you’re someone who feels like you lose yourself whenever you’re in a relationship, here are some tips to stay grounded.

If you’re someone who feels like you lose yourself whenever you’re in a relationship, here are some tips to stay grounded.

Relationships

Stop Testing Your Partner

Tina Gilbertson LPC on October 19, 2020

Are you testing your partner without realizing it? If so, you could be putting you both in a difficult position, and creating the very problems you fear.

Are you testing your partner without realizing it? If so, you could be putting you both in a difficult position, and creating the very problems you fear.

Relationships

Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on September 19, 2020

When it seems like your partner might leave you any day, it’s natural to feel insecure. But those feelings aren’t always based in reality.

When it seems like your partner might leave you any day, it’s natural to feel insecure. But those feelings aren’t always based in reality.

Relationships

How to Know If Your Requests Are Reasonable

Tina Gilbertson LPC on August 19, 2020

Is it reasonable to ask your husband to make you dinner? Maybe. Just about any request is OK, depending on what’s behind it.

Is it reasonable to ask your husband to make you dinner? Maybe. Just about any request is OK, depending on what’s behind it.

Assertiveness

Is Being Passive Ruining Your Life?

Tina Gilbertson LPC on July 22, 2020

Especially in uncertain times, it’s easy to just sit back and see what happens. But taking a passive approach to life is not necessarily your best bet.

Especially in uncertain times, it’s easy to just sit back and see what happens. But taking a passive approach to life is not necessarily your best bet.

Self-Help

When Old Emotions Won’t Go Away

Tina Gilbertson LPC on June 20, 2020

If you’re carrying the weight of old emotions from things that happened years ago, it may be time to do some de-cluttering.

If you’re carrying the weight of old emotions from things that happened years ago, it may be time to do some de-cluttering.

Career

When Self-Care Doesn’t Work

Tina Gilbertson LPC on May 25, 2020

Self-care is important, but it doesn’t always work. Find out what may be going wrong in your case, and how to address it so you can feel better sooner.

Self-care is important, but it doesn’t always work. Find out what may be going wrong in your case, and how to address it so you can feel better sooner.