Determining What Started the Hoarding Accumulation
How to begin moving forward to the life you want for yourself.
Posted Jan 28, 2020
Imagine that Elaine Birchall (or your clutter coach) is sitting with you now. Choose a space for us to look at first and consider:
- What makes up the accumulation?
- What influenced you to place each of these items and leave them where they are? (The reasons may be different for different types of things.)
- What was the original plan for this area?
- What were the ideas, needs, or vision behind that plan?
- What events or choices prompted you to alter the plan?
- For now, let’s accept that temporarily, these things are where they are. Did you begin to lose focus on the plan? If so, when?
- Did something happen during the time frame when the buildup began?
- Did you start to put the plan in place and encounter barriers to moving forward?
- If so, what were/are those barriers?
- When you look at the piles, do you see a collection of anything (for example, documents, unopened mail, bills, and receipts) with common dates? Are these dates associated with anything that happened at that time?
- Was there some other reason that prompted you to change or abandon your plan?
- Are you better at starting multiple things rather than finishing them?
- When was the last time you were able to assign permanent places for things?
- Where would these things normally be kept and used?
If you can’t figure out where you normally keep an item, try the following system for determining each item’s permanent place.
Decide the Permanent Place for Each Keep Item
Many people have found this technique helpful when deciding where their things should be kept. The gist is to hold or touch each item, then close your eyes and ask, “If I were looking for you, where would I look first?” The answer is its permanent place.
The item and its permanent place should meet the following criteria:
- The item must not be irreversibly contaminated.
- The place should be a dedicated spot where the item is normally used.
- The place must keep the item accessible; three deep on a shelf is not normally accessible (depending on the item).
As long as you are not creating a health or safety hazard, take each thing and, even if you can’t put it where you have decided its permanent place is, put it as close to that spot as you can for the time being. It may feel like you are just moving piles, but as long as you are not creating a health or safety hazard, you will deal with it when you get to that area by using the scaling process described in the next blog article.
Now, let’s consider two questions.
What is causing the accumulation to be maintained?
Generally, something prompted your original plan for the area to be changed. You might have valid reasons for the change in plan and the clutter still being maintained.
The fundamental question is “What is maintaining this particular cluttered environment?”
What stops you from resolving the accumulation?
As you look at this space, the next question you must ask yourself is “What keeps me from resolving this situation?” Do your thoughts, fears, beliefs, or lifestyle habits prevent you from resolving the situation? Are you so overwhelmed by your clutter that you cannot move forward to uncluttered? Do you find making decisions to be more difficult than you can manage at the moment?
It is OK if you need to come back to this section more than once. These questions are like peeling an onion. Undoubtedly, there are multiple layers to progress.
In the meantime, let’s move on with what you know now. Let’s consider how to approach this situation effectively at this point.
Elaine Birchall's guidelines are to:
- Respect the attachment you feel
- Respect the relationship you have with your things, and therefore your preferences, and
- Respect yourself by working at your pace.
To do this effectively, you need to understand:
- What you actually see when you look at an item;
- How you feel and what you say to yourself when you look at it, and
- What your relationship is to it and your need for it.
Take some time to work through these questions and your current situation, and watch for our next post where we will discuss how to set goals to resolve the clutter.