The COVID crisis throws into relief what happens when grief has—quite literally—nowhere to go. The evidence suggests that most people summon strengths that surpass their own expectations.
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Kathy McCoy Ph.D.
What can make or break a relationship? Sometimes the small things, moments of cruelty or of kindness, can make a huge difference.
Bitterness is bad for your health, but forgiveness has benefits. Here are five ways to begin to let go and move on.
Are you fighting more with your spouse but resolving fewer problems? Here are seven ways to handle marital conflicts and find new hope.
Whether you're quarantining during the pandemic, recently retired, or newly living together, these 5 steps can help create a happier relationship.
Love and caring can help you stay safe, and sane, during fear and uncertainty.
How do you minimize trouble and maximize love with your siblings?
With each new year, many of us make major resolutions to improve our lives and relationships. It can be overwhelming.
Where to start? Take small steps.
Are you repeatedly unlucky in love with a woeful pattern of bad relationships? Here are tips to break this losing streak and find healthy, satisfying love at last.
Are you in love, but the other person isn't? Do you give and give, getting little in return? Is there hope or not? What can you do about lopsided love?
Trying to decide whether to stay or whether to leave your relationship? Here are some reasons for staying and signs that it's time to go.
Do you really need a new app to remind you to be kind and thoughtful to those you love most? Here are five ways to enhance your relationships right now—on your own!
Are you lonely in your relationship? Here's how to begin to reconnect and reclaim your love and intimacy.
Your adolescent or young adult child has just come out. Whatever your feelings about the news, what you say and do next can be relationship enhancing, even life-saving.
Love for and grief over the loss of pet can be unique and intense, and too often minimized by others. Here are some suggestions for finding comfort and gratitude.
Mismatched levels of sexual desire cause conflict with many couples. Here are ways to understand and begin to resolve your differences.
As the college admissions scandal unfolds, filled with bribery, deceit, and wealthy steamrolling parents—there are important lessons we can learn from this about loving our kids.
When you're in conflict with a loved one, there is one habit that is guaranteed to make life worse. Here's how to keep it from happening to you when life is far from perfect.
Do you love your husband or wife, but feel that you're not "in love" anymore? Is the romance getting lost in your daily lives? Here's how to fall in love anew.
Feeling shut out by an adult child? Maybe it's something you said or the way you said it. Here are some secrets to better communication that can help heal your relationship.
What if you got a second chance with a long-ago love? Consider the factors that spell the difference between reconnected bliss — or a love disaster.
Are you so preoccupied with your phone that you're missing glorious sunsets, the love in another's eyes, and family fun? Here are tips for getting back in touch.
Are you and someone you love at odds over Trump? Or Kavanaugh? Or any number of other divisive political issues? Here's how to make peace even though you may never agree.
Assumptions abound about gray divorce — that it's rampant, or tends to be the result of a midlife crisis — but they may not be correct.
Why do some relationships thrive through the years while others falter? Here are seven ways to help your relationship last.
How do you know if a friendship is truly toxic? What can you do besides walking away? Is ending the relationship always your best option?
What do you do when you love your partner, but don't feel "in love" anymore? Here are some ideas—and reasons to celebrate your evolving love for each other!
Are you joyously in love—but feeling hurt and angry about your adult children's lack of enthusiasm or hostility? Here's how to keep your love and make peace with the kids.
Are emotional fault lines — simmering anger and conflict unexpressed — threatening your relationship? Here's how to prevent disaster.
Now that you are settled into your relationship, has "I love you!" lost some of its spark? These five phrases can enhance and reinforce your love.
Has your ardor cooled? Do you yearn for a bit of emotional space? Cycles of distance and intimacy are common in relationships, but too many couples panic. Don't be among them!
Kathy McCoy, Ph.D. is psychotherapist, journalist, and speaker and the author of books including We Don't Talk Anymore: Healing After Parents and Their Adult Children Become Estranged.