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How to save a life
Lisa Firestone Ph.D.
As much as we would like to move on or forget about the painful events of this pandemic, research suggests that we cannot resolve our trauma without creating a coherent narrative.
Giving our kids manageable responsibilities and encouraging them to take steps rather than expecting them to accomplish huge feats is a powerful lesson to offer.
By being less judgmental, we can find new ways to nurture a friendship and thrive in a relationship, both as an individual and as a pair.
As adults, we continue to punish and soothe ourselves in the same ways our parents did. These patterns can have a negative effect.
To a degree, many of us don’t actually want what we say we want. Because of learned defenses from our past, we unknowingly sabotage ourselves.
Many of us experience a certain level of discomfort around receiving because, even as it may benefit us and be what we wish for, it also challenges us.
All feelings provide us with information. We need to experience feeling bad about our less-than-ideal behavior to make changes and develop ourselves.
Nurturing our relationships is one of the most fulfilling pursuits in life. Here’s why it’s so important, and here are some suggestions for how to do it.
Our self-perception is often not based on what’s actually going on in our lives, but rather on a negative internal distortion known as our “critical inner voice.”
When a person consistently experiences a lack of ownership over their feelings and reactions, it can be problematic for several reasons.
There are some common, restricting viewpoints around love and relationships that can limit a person’s capacity for personal growth and experiencing love and fulfillment.
We inherit a complex set of visible and invisible lessons from our parents that impact our lives in all kinds of ways. So how do we live our own lives?
Here are three ways to stay close to your partner by learning to think "big."
Calming down is a skill of self-compassion that we can build and practice.
Here are some ways to take responsibility for our happiness, while creating more happiness in our relationship.
With all of the unavoidable change being thrown our way, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to have self-compassion.
Exploring the ways we provoke actually offers us a tremendous amount of insight into ourselves. It can also dramatically improve our relationship.
In the past year, grief has become universal. Yet, it is still deeply personal.
Why we hit roadblocks in our tolerance for love and relationships and what to do to overcome them.
In facing a year that is sure to challenge and change us, the best thing to can do is arm ourselves with our own personalized toolkit that nurtures our well-being.
As people spend time in isolation, it’s important to consider the internal thought processes that may be driving them toward risky and self-destructive behavior.
Many of us are breaking traditions to have a safe holiday. How can we honor our feelings of sadness and still create a holiday that is meaningful?
There is one area of research that offers a lot of insight, if not answers, to why we live our lives the way we do, and particularly, how we operate in relationships.
It’s okay to give yourself permission to seek a little bit of peace right now. Here are five ways to help you do it.
Many of us are resistant to recognizing our ambivalence around relationships. Here are three ways to identify if you're giving in to your fear of intimacy and pushing love away.
These two things can help you let down your guard and let someone in without feeling like you’re losing important aspects of who you are.
Missing people for a prolonged period of time can increase stress, grief, and depression. Here, I share three practices to help you cope.
Three suggestions for mental wellness to help us power through the trials of our time.
How building inner security, embracing self-compassion, and challenging our “critical inner voice” can help us overcome even our deepest insecurities.
Looking at our past can help shed light on the origins of our negative self-concept. Knowing the source of our insecurities can help us challenge them from the ground up.
Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, an author, and the Director of Research and Education for the Glendon Association.