Infidelity: Not Missing The Signs
Keeping your intuition on the right track.
Posted Jun 03, 2011
Realities About Infidelity
Reality One- Your intuition will detect the early signs.
Reality Two- Love prepares you to know infidelity.
Reality Three- You can recognize the early signs of infidelity with a unified body-mind.
Incidences of missing the signs of infidelity happens when your natural intuition collapses down and you are out of tune with your partner. Your natural ability to sense the status of the relationship is disrupted. This disruption not only prevents you from detecting the early signs of infidelity but also causes your relationship to deteriorate.
Our research and clinical experience uncovered three full-proof signs showing intuition shutdown:
1. Your awareness of your body and surroundings contracts.
2. Your body becomes tense.
3. Your mind becomes cluttered with thoughts.
In this tense and contracted body-mind state you have emotional blinders and miss the whole relationship picture. Without your intuition you become blind to signs of infidelity or overly suspicious causing your relationship to falter.
Right now, take a moment to listen to the background sounds. See the colors on the wall. Feel your feet on the floor. Sense your butt on the chair. If thoughts appear observe them and come back to your senses. Note how your senses open, your mind clears and your body relaxes. This experience of expanded awareness is a full-proof sign that your intuition is in its natural expansive state and your body-mind is unified.
After feeling settled, think about a situation where someone has betrayed your confidence. Mull that over for a moment or two. What happens to the sound, the colors, and the body sensations? Is your body tense? Once you get caught in your thoughts your awareness contracts down and your body tenses up. In this state your ability to detect the early signs that your relationship is off course is restricted. Your natural intuition has shut down.
Keeping Your intuition On The Right Track
Mind-Body Bridging, a branch of Mind-Body Medicine, helps you maintain a unified body-mind state and a fully functional intuition. Here are three easy to apply tools that can be used even in the heat of difficult situations:
1. Whenever you feel your body tense up, your mind swirling with thoughts, and your senses collapsing down, know that your intuition is off track.
2. Come to Your Senses! Be aware of the background sounds and body sensations until you feel settled.
3. Now, with a unified body-mind, your natural intuition is on track and you are prepared to deal with any situation in your relationship.
I would like to hear about your experiences with your intuition being on track or being off track.
Coming in November, 2012, New Harbinger Publishers
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Nakamura, Y., D. L. Lipschitz, R. Landward, R. Kuhn, and G. West. Two sessions of sleep focused mind-body bridging improve self-reported symptoms of sleep and PTSD in veterans: A pilot randomized controlled trial. Journal of Psychosomatic Research 70 2011 335-345.