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Sibling estrangement and the road to reconciliation.
Fern Schumer Chapman on May 31, 2023
Undiagnosed autism limits the emotional connection of adult relationships in the family; it could be a hidden cause of troubled relationships.
Fern Schumer Chapman on May 3, 2023
We have a need for attachment and a need for authenticity, but some people chose to abandon their true selves to please others, inside or outside of their families.
Fern Schumer Chapman on April 10, 2023
The illness or death of an estranged family member can be vexing for surviving relatives. Should they say goodbye? Attend the funeral? Send flowers?
Fern Schumer Chapman on March 21, 2023
A new book explores how the quality and emotional tone of sibling relationships in childhood helps explain adult connections with lovers, friends, and coworkers.
Fern Schumer Chapman on February 28, 2023
A new book establishes that good relationships — especially with siblings — keep us happier, healthier, and help us live longer.
Fern Schumer Chapman on February 13, 2023
Difficult sibling relationships and estrangement often are tainted by three hidden influences: personalization, core beliefs, and trauma bonding.
Fern Schumer Chapman on January 25, 2023
Prince Harry's new memoir spotlights sibling bullying, which can include shaming, harassing, belittling, name-calling, and threatening behavior.
Fern Schumer Chapman on January 2, 2023
The holidays are a roll call for families, but some members don't show up due to estrangement. Polls show estrangement is common, and political differences often cause the divide.
Fern Schumer Chapman on December 20, 2022
Without understanding the reason for a cutoff, shunned siblings feel their reality and emotions are invalidated. They are rendered voiceless.
Fern Schumer Chapman on December 2, 2022
During the holidays, relatives may use toxic positivity to project an image of the perfect family. This form of group gaslighting leads to inauthentic, distant relationships.
Fern Schumer Chapman on November 18, 2022
Men can be just as upset as women about sibling estrangement, but, for a variety of reasons, and they may not know how to talk about it.
Fern Schumer Chapman on November 10, 2022
Focused journal exercises offer estranged siblings an opportunity to gain important insight and discover resilience and truths.
Fern Schumer Chapman on October 19, 2022
Children raised in chaotic, abusive, or neglectful families run a great risk of estrangement in adulthood.
Fern Schumer Chapman on October 4, 2022
The crisis of a parent’s passing can resurrect conflicts and patterns of relating that can lead to sibling estrangement.
Fern Schumer Chapman on September 23, 2022
Death and estrangement can produce contradictory feelings of guilt, shame, relief, and longing—the rarely discussed grief of ambivalent loss.
Fern Schumer Chapman on September 16, 2022
The estranged often remain in “frozen grief,” experiencing all the emotions of mourning, yet never reaching resolution. How can the estranged move forward?
Fern Schumer Chapman on September 2, 2022
Estrangement isn’t just a cutoff from a family member; it can be a deep trauma that ripples through all other relationships.
Fern Schumer Chapman on August 16, 2022
Rosy memories and unrealistic hopes can justify a toxic relationship—especially when they’re supported by destructive thought patterns.
Fern Schumer Chapman on August 5, 2022
Some relationships are too toxic to sustain, but the estranged often suffer a loss of self-esteem, trust, and well-being.
Fern Schumer Chapman on July 25, 2022
The estranged feel socially disenfranchised and judged by a culture that expects family cohesion, and they internalize this shame.