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Karen Salmansohn

Karen Salmansohn

Want to Lose Weight? Go on a Word Diet!

How NLP and changing the words you use can help you to lose weight!

I hate to wait. When I want something, I want it now.

This also applies to my weight. When I want to lose weight, I want to lose it now.

But how?

In my book Enough Dammit, I offer up a variety of psychological techniques to break bad addictive patterns for good. One of my personal tricks for weight loss is to become conscious of the words I use -- tapping into a combination of Neural Linguistic Programming mixed with positive psychology. It works.

I know this on a very personal basis. Recently, after giving birth to my son -- in a pregnancy where I gained nearly 60 pounds - I began changing the words I allowed to exit my mouth when discussing food. Sure enough the kinds of food I allowed to enter my mouth began to change as well! Within three months of using my new vocabulary menu, I lost 45 pounds.

Are you happy with your weight right now? If not, I recommend using this new vocabulary menu served up below.

1. I banned the word "diet" completely and renamed my actions as "do-it." I wanted to ingrain into my brain that I was really going to do it - lose this weight!

2. I "appreci-eat" my food. This word is all about slowing down how you eat, which allows you to taste and appreciate food more, which leads you to eating less.

3. I now label foods as "forward" and "backward." Every food I choose to eat helps me become more conscious of how it either moves me forward to my fab weight or backward to my flab weight.

4. I've relabeled my eating habits as "the old me" and "the new me." All your habits in life come from your identity. If you think, "I always overeat late at night," guess what? You do! If you think, "The old me used to overeat late at night, but the new me can resist pigging out - even on chocolate," guess what? The new you will be very much going forward to a fab weight, instead of backward to your flab weight.

5. I swapped mere tiny "willpower" for "wall-power!" Nothing is able to break through my wall of commitment!

6. I began talking more about ways to "increase my appetite for life."  After all, if you want to be a slim, healthy person, it's essential you swap the pleasure of food with life's multitudinous other delights. If you want to lose weight, you must make sure your appetite for life is far bigger than your appetite for mere food. How do you increase your appetite for life? Stop allowing yourself to focus on depressing life circumstances -- including focusing on being depressed about your weight. All this negative focus will only lead you to feeling bummed and wanting to pig out. Instead, consciously focus on happy life circumstances you enjoy doing, and create more of them! Swap chips and salsa for salsa classes! Stop eating cake, and start painting fruit baskets! Recognize how the joy of taking photos lasts longer than the joy of ice cream!

7. I recognize when I'm "do-it-ing" to become my slimmest, I'm not merely looking to create "a better number on my scale." I'm looking to permanently adjust my "masochistic equilibrium level." What's this and how does it work? Well, it's as if each of us grew up feeling comfy with a certain level of happiness. When this happiness concentration shifts, even if it's upward to feeling incredible big happiness, then a lot of us feel twitchy and overeat, thereby raising our weight upward so as to lower our self-love, so as to lower our happiness, which reverts us to our familiar "masochistic equilibrium level" leftover from childhood. Basically, if you want to get and stay at your slimmest weight, you must be ready to throw out these old childhood emotional  leftovers. When you're truly ready to be happy in life, then you're truly ready to be happy about your weight.

Do you think changing the way you talk about food and dieting can change your weight? Have you ever tried positive, personal affirmation as a way to lose weight? Let me know below!

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About the Author

Karen Salmansohn

Karen Salmansohn is an author and contributor to She also writes a popular business column for amNY newspaper called "The 1 Minute Career Therapist."


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