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Overcoming dysregulated behaviors that interfere with life values
Peggilee Wupperman Ph.D.
Feel like most people are coping with the pandemic better than you are? You're not alone.
Depending on the news source, you may have read that mindfulness is a miraculous life-changer, a harmful Pandora's box, or an utter sham. So which is it?
Mindfulness will not turn you into a feel-good Zen zombie. It does not stop you from feeling negative emotions; it just helps free you from being controlled by those emotions.
Do shaming and "rock bottom" help decrease dysregulated behavior? No! In fact, they can actually do the opposite.
You’ve promised yourself that you will NOT (pick one: have that drink, binge on that food, take those pills, engage in self-harm, place that bet, etcetera).
Then you get home.
Sometimes you can get so caught up in trying to hide the things about yourself you think are wrong – that you can lose touch with what you actually do feel and value.
Overcoming self-destructive behavior can feel overwhelming and painful. You deserve to understand how methods aimed at stopping the behavior actually work. (Part III)
Overcoming self-destructive behavior can feel overwhelming and painful. You deserve to understand how methods aimed at stopping the behavior actually work.
Self-destructive (dysregulated) behaviors can feel impossible to resist. Can mindfulness really help something so entrenched and overwhelming? (If so, how?)
Have you ever realized that a behavior was causing you harm, but found yourself unable to stop?
Peggilee Wupperman, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, an associate professor at John Jay College, an assistant clinical professor at Yale Medical School, and the developer of Mindfulness and Modification Therapy.