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Why some relationships work—and others don't
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D.
Could your relationship use a boost? Here are 3 simple, science-based strategies you can use this month to improve your relationship.
Some of the human tendencies that help keep us alive also have a negative side, here are 5 tips for combating our tendencies to adapt, focus on the bad, and fail at forecasting.
Some of the human tendencies that help keep us alive also have a negative side. making it harder for us to focus on the good.
Expressing gratitude is an instant mood boost. Science explains how to overcome the prediction errors that prevent us from truly saying thanks.
Conflict is inevitable, but a blow-up, drag-out fight doesn't have to be. Answer these 5 simple questions to figure out when your fights will be most productive.
“Never go to bed angry” might be one of the worst pieces of old-time wisdom. Fatigue, hunger, and stress may be the real culprits behind some of your worst fights.
Sometimes being nice gets you nowhere. When your partner has a behavior you really need them to change and they just won’t listen, research suggests it may be time to get tough.
Recent research suggests we underestimate the role of random chance in our lives. Is the success or failure of our relationships determined by how lucky we get?
Do we overestimate the role of talent in success? Recent research suggests success is more about getting lucky than being talented.
Raise your hand if you’ve spent any time in the past month dreaming about a different life. Research suggests you change your focus before trading it all in.
Feeling like your relationship could use a boost? This gratitude exercise helps you stop focusing on what's wrong so you can see what is right.
All of us have given and received hundreds, if not thousands, of gifts. So why, as gift givers, do we continue to make the same mistakes over and over again?
Money can buy happiness, if you spend it right. Research shows there are more benefits to spending money on experiences than material goods. Here are three reasons why.
There is a rather unfortunate term in psychology, hedonic adaptation, that summarizes the state of long-term relationships. It is the tendency to get used to the good in our lives.
You may not be able to stop the stressors in your or your partner’s life, but you can use these evidence-based tips to prevent them spilling over and harming your relationship.
Stress. Does that word define your life right now? If so, you are not alone. Find out how stress spills into our personal lives, affecting the quality of our close relationships.
Responsive listening is at the core of good communication and closeness. When your partner really gets you, nothing else matters. So how can you become a responsive partner?
Want to do a little something to boost your relationship this week? Here are three easy, evidence-based tips from saying a quick "thank you" to playing word games over dinner.
Fighting after a bad night of sleep can hurt your physical health. But how you deal with your emotions during the fight can make a difference.
Looking at disagreements from the view of an outside observer provides new insights that just might change the course of your relationship.
Do you sometimes hate your partner? If so, you're not alone. It turns out we all have times when we hate the people we love the most. Although some of us may not even know it.
When household duties become "jobs," gratitude diminishes and resentment grows. But research suggests a little appreciation may transform these tasks from "musts" to "wants."
A friend guiltily confessed to me she had been disappointed by the diamond earrings she received from her boyfriend for Christmas because she’d been hoping for a diamond ring.
Research on giving and receiving gifts shows how we can maintain perspective during the gift-giving season and reconcile our differing desires as gift-giver and gift-receiver.
Our country continues to become more polarized in it's politics and not just polarized, but moralized. How do we move away from this polarization and gain perspective?
What should you do when your partner upsets you? Recent research suggests that whether you are better off forgiving or getting angry depends on your partner’s personality.
We pay attention to different factors when watching versus listening to a presidential debate. Here's why.
We are wired to be selfish—to think about our own needs and desires first. Today, I urge you to take five minutes to consider your partner’s perspective by asking three questions.
It's not whether you fight, but how you fight that matters. Bringing understanding into your fights can transform them from negative experiences to positive ones.
Whether watching on tv or listening on the radio, how you hear a presidential debate might change who you think won.
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D., is a post-doctoral scholar in Social-Personality Psychology at the University of California, Berkeley.