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Why some relationships work—and others don't
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D.
Being optimistic may help, or hurt, your relationship.
Why aren't we better at being kind to the people we care about? I research and teach about this topic and still take my family for granted.
Settling for "good enough" may be better than searching for the perfect partner.
A few suggestions for how to build your "relationship" bank account. The more you invest, the better buffer you'll have when your relationship inevitably hits a bump in the road.
Conflict is a natural part of romantic relationships. Here is the research on what couples are fighting about.
Giving and receiving thanks can bring couples closer together. These research-supported strategies can help partners best express their heartfelt gratitude to one another.
People tend to hold optimistic expectations for their relationships, but is this always a good thing? Research suggests some expectations may help and others may be harmful.
Should you believe in soul mates? If you do, does it matter?
What will post-pandemic life look like? Will our year of social distancing make it difficult to be around other people again?
How has the COVID-19 pandemic changed romantic relationships? Researchers are starting to find out.
Are you using dating apps to have fun new experiences or to avoid being lonely? These reasons might matter for how successful your experience with the app will be.
When it comes to dating, we all have deal breakers. But do they actually matter when it comes to who we date and who we don't?
We all have preferences for our ideal mate, but research suggests what we say we want might not be what we choose when we come face-to-face with potential partners.
We like people who like us, but we also like people who play hard to get. How does research explain this?
When it comes to similarity and relationship success, our beliefs about what matters and what the data say tell two different stories.
Are you looking for a relationship quality booster? Try paying attention to absence of conflict in your relationships--sometimes what's missing matters as much as what is there.
Fair division of labor is considered key to a successful marriage. But what determines fairness?
The pandemic is affecting every aspect of our lives. As a relationships researcher, I can’t help but wonder about all the ways this global event is impacting our relationships.
Experiences of awe boost health and well-being. Here are five ways to get your daily dose of awe, even when you're stuck inside the house.
Is all this family time too much of a good thing? Here are nine evidence-based tips for how not to kill your family during a lockdown.
Life's changed quickly over the past few weeks. Here is my experience with the psychological biases that shape our responses to disasters.
Research suggests not all plans are created equal. For short-term goals, backward planning may be more effective.
Feel tired during the day? Need caffeine to stay alert? Here are tips from the sleep experts for getting better sleep.
Does your partner disturb your sleep? Research shows how couples can sleep better together, and when a "sleep divorce" might be the answer.
Have high expectations for your relationship? They might mean that you're missing out on chances to feel grateful.
Are sacrifices in your relationship going unnoticed? Research suggests everyday sacrifices are missed about half the time, and your relationship may be worse for it.
Is one grateful partner enough to make a relationship work? Recent research suggests the answer may be no.
People who have more sex feel more positively about their spouses without even knowing it.
Adults in the US may have more sex than nearly every other country (except France), but is more always better? Research suggests maybe not.
Want to feel more satisfied with your job? Sex with your spouse helps.
Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D., is a social psychologist at the University of Michigan whose research focuses on interpersonal relationships and well-being.